Social Law:

1. Keep your friend circle small. This allows for stronger bonds & fewer snakes.

2. Keep your acquaintance circle large. This allows for more versatility & networking opportunities.

'Seems like the law is backwards?'

Nope.

It's in the correct way

Mistaking it as being backwards will cause a lot of tension...

Are you aware of the difference between a friend and an acquaintence?

'Sort of.'

Let's turn that 'sort of' into a 'yes.'

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Talk to someone's child side to build a friend

Talk to someone's adult side to build an acquaintance

Both are required for a network.

It's not about the quantity yet.

It's about being able to label, first

what do you picture when I say 'popular'

'Someone who has a lot of friends.

Mistake

Popular is someone who has loyal friends

Loyalty is difficult to find

And loyalty takes time to spot

It can be spotted while going thru the ups AND downs with someone

That's a big part of what separates a friend from an acquaintence

with a friend, you most likely went thru ups AND downs with them

With an acquaintance, that's not always the case

After the up AND down process, it was easier to decide if the person was loyal or not

If not, then the friendship probably dissipated

If yes, then the friendship solidified

If you have 100$ right now...

And try to split it among 20 people, then each will get 5$

If you try to split it among 5 people, then each will get 20$

That's like your energy buddy.

Trying to split your energy with everyone causes people to get a fake version of you

And you get a fake version of them

People with a lot of 'friends' often get backstabbed the most

Mainly because they:

-trusted too soon
-have to scope thru too many people to find the snake

Now let's talk about acquaintences

This label often gets a bad reputation

If you go to someone and tell them you view them as an acquaintance, they may get offended

I get excited

'Why?'

Because acquaintances keep a network versatile

A solid acquaintance is born from a win-win relationship

Both of you are providing value for each other in some way

But unlike a friend, this group does not need as much energy

A simple text once a month to see how everything is going is MORE than enough with an acquianteces

The numbers may vary depending on the bond

This is called a 'touch point'

The reason an acquaintance is powerful is that they can introduce you to a brand new network

With your friends, most likely you all know a lot of the same people

Not always, but that's often the case

Let's say Jim needs a job

He doesn't want to wait months for his resume to be read

So he contacts a guy who knows a guy

Jim knows that Johnny works in his dream company

Johnny is not a higher up in the company

But Johnny knows Ricky, who happens to be a recruiter

Jim is connected with Ricky thru Johnny

This is called 'node hopping.'

The core of a network are the friends

View that as the nucleus

The power of a network are the acquaintances

Less is more for the nucleus

More is more for power

Before I wrap up, a reason you are lonely is because you are unable to distinguish an acquaintance from a friend

You keep dwelling on who you don't have, and ignore who you have

This dwelling causes you to wonder why you haven't been thru ups AND downs with acquaintances

But remember what I said earlier

ups AND downs are for friends

See if you have at least 2-3 of them

And family counts too

That's a social 101 lesson

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