I genuinely don’t know how many people I have slept with...

I know you are thinking ‘Are they that much’, but the truth is that I just don’t care enough to have such matters as a conscious thought.
I mean why would I? It makes no sense to me...

But last night, I spoke with a friend and asked her why she was recycling men who she knows have nothing to offer her and she replied ‘Lolo!! I no wan increase body count’ 

The way my body pinched me

Listen! Body count is just another societal imposition on women to make us suppress our sexuality.

It’s nobody’s business who you are sexually intimate with or how many people you have shared these moments with.

The need to stay in the accepted body count figure (I hear is 3 - first sex, 2nd bf, and lastly husband ugh! lol!) will make you shrink yourself and inherit deep-rooted shame if you have surpassed the figure.

Please do yourself a favor and break free from that mental shackle! 

The truth is that many women have the belief that they are GIVING sex to someone, they feel like they lose something with every encounter especially if it doesn't lead to their desired end - Usually marriage!

This is why they keep counting it and thinking ‘How many people will I give this thing to, won’t it make me look cheap’

I am telling you that you do not lose your value when you have sex!
Only you can dictate your worth!

You are not giving a man sex!
You are engaging in a healthy and natural act that fulfills and provides pleasure!

Do not recycle for fear of sharing a new experience with someone else.

LIVE your life and stop giving unnecessary ideologies space in your head when you need your mind to think of more productive matters!!