One of the biggest problems with mainstream/modern trans activism is how drastically the language and goal has shifted from “these people deserve to live a good normal life like everybody else” to “we need to make everything revolve around them.”

What I see all the time is this idea that “your body isn’t wrong, it’s society telling you that men/women are supposed to look a certain way!” and they tell us to embrace things that we’re not supposed to have in the first place.

All of this “men get periods too” shit is a perfect example— men aren’t supposed to get periods, and the solution for a real transsexual: HRT/surgery. But the solution for these people is to just claim that “well you’re still a man so you don’t need to change anything.”

They’re completely trying to change the definitions of words to fit people who aren’t even trans in the first place. Changing the definition of “man/woman” to “anyone who identifies as one” is not going to erase dysphoria because that’s not how it works.

They seem to think that changing certain words to fit as many people as possible is what’s helpful, when in reality, it’s doing nothing but harm.

This idea that “the best way to help trans people is to make things revolve around the fact that they’re not anatomically correct (but that’s what makes them special!)” is not the activism that these people think it is.

Our goals are to look the way we expect to and get rid of that constant distress— no amount of changing language to be more “inclusive” (i.e. weird and often borderline fetish-y) is going to actually cure anyone.

A good example is a post I saw about how someone’s doctor asked her if she’d been “having sex with sperm-producing partners” rather than simply asking if she could be pregnant. (1/2)

Trying to be more “inclusive” in this case alienates trans men from something they should be able to do but can’t, and emphasizes a dysphoria-inducing characteristic that some pre-op trans women might have but shouldn’t have. (2/2)

Emphasizing sex characteristics but not tying them to being male/female does nothing. Saying “people with uteruses” is not what anyone wants because the issue is that if you’re a trans man, that shit isn’t supposed to be in there at all. It doesn’t matter what language you use.

This sort of thing also perpetuates this idea that no trans person is or wants to be anatomically correct, which is honestly just completely fucked up.

The idea that the issue is language people use rather than dysphoria itself really shows how little people know or care to know about us. It doesn’t matter if “men can have periods too” now, I sure as hell am not supposed to.

Dysphoria will continue to exist without treatment, and treatment involves actually altering characteristics to make them fit expectations— somebody deciding that “well SOME men don’t have penises <3” doesn’t suddenly change the fact that we’re still *supposed* to have them.

We still know that we’re missing something, we still know that we need treatment, we still know that there’s something wrong, and yet all these people want to do is REMIND us of those things in an attempt to be “woke” all while actually hurting us and refusing to acknowledge it.

It’s one thing to acknowledge that pre-HRT/pre-op people exist and are just as deserving of respect as everyone else, but shoving this stuff in their faces while they’re already struggling more than anyone is the furthest thing from respect.

I just miss when the trans representation I saw was people letting me know that just because I was born different doesn’t mean that I won’t get to live my life with the body I’m supposed to have. And I hope everyone who follows me on here knows this too, because it’s true.

But now we’re bombarded with people claiming that this medical problem we have is the fault of society, which (dare I say) *invalidates* us and our experiences. We have a medical problem that we need treatment for. That’s all it is and all it’s ever been.