stop being sad as an aesthetic/personality trait.. i’m not saying people are pretending, but consuming emotionally heavy media &constantly surrounding yourself with “sad” vibes isn’t helping you cope the way you think it is. this is @ 15-20 year olds from someone in their mid 20s

who’s been through it. i literally would DISSOCIATE when i allowed myself to feel anything other than sadness, that’s how foreign happiness was to me. i couldn’t listen to music that wasn’t in minor key. i felt weird wearing colour. and there was media everywhere glorifying it

depression, personality disorders and eating disorders were glorified. happy music/media were considered distasteful. i see the same trends creeping back in among the 2000s kids and it scares me cuz it’s going to affect them more adversely than it did the previous generation-

just because of the way the world is rn &how quickly this messaging spreads on platforms like tiktok. i know you can’t choose to turn off your depression &it doesn’t work that way. i of all people KNOW. but it’s all too easy to give in to feeding it with the messaging you consume

i get it. sad feels comfortable. it feels familiar, it feels like home cuz maybe that’s all you’ve ever known. you probably don’t know yourself without the sadness. that was me for literally the entirety of my life and i found it morbidly comforting to see it glorified. -

but i realized that i was a detriment to not only myself but also those around me. not by just existing like i had convinced myself, but my constant self pity, victim mentality and self sabotaging behaviours. the music/aesthetic kept me sad. and it’s hard breaking out of it.

that’s why i see a problem with “let people cope the way they feel best.” it’s LITERALLY hurting them more in the long run. I don’t know I think someone else could word it more eloquently but your survival/wellness is your responsibility, as much as that sucks.

idk what the point of this thread was but yeah just felt like ranting