Gonna think out loud for a bit about opinions.

It's not hypocritical to both be bothered by someone slandering your faves, & also slandering something that is someone else's faves at the same time. Agreeing with your own opinions is natural, & so is disagreeing with others'.

You can only really hold yourself accountable to your own sense of what's right and what's wrong. If I dislike something someone else likes, I can't be expected to just not say something that might annoy them just because I would also get annoyed if it was the other way around.

Does understanding that fact stop me from getting annoyed when others say things I don't like? No, nor should it really. Instead you try expressing why what the other person said is wrong, and then maybe they get annoyed because they think what you said is wrong. What can you do?

I feel like this fact isn't understood enough by a lot of people, it's *fine* to get annoyed and to hold strong with your opinions, as long as you play by the rules of arguing shit, which doesn't even mean "you have to be super nice" just don't like make it something it's not.

Maybe it's because when you experience unpleasant emotions there's an impulse to solve it or rationalize why you feel this way so many people come to the answer of "Negativity is the problem, if people just stopped being negative this bad feeling will disappear" but that's not it

It's ok to feel passionate and strongly about your opinions and get angry to defend them, and to fight each other gladiator style by typing furiously and racking your brain for arguments, cause it's by having and observing clashes of opinion like that that we learn more from it.

I might badmouth some anime or whatever, because that's the way I feel & I think I have a point, and in return a fan of that series might think "this guy is stupid" & start arguing with me, and then I might think back again "this guy is stupid" or I might think "shit he's right."

Those things often make me frustrated depending on how it plays out, what is being said etc, which sucks & I might complain about that, but even if I don't/can't understand someone else's opinion, I at least understand the idea that we're all coming from the same starting point.

That's like the general concept of how I see this idea of having opinions & arguing working. What arguments are worth having & who with is up to anyone to decide cause there might not be enough to gain from it to you, or it might not be worth the time or energy one way or another

I know a lot of what I'm saying is obvious but that's the point. It's worth looking at what we know from experience as obvious & really reflect on how we feel about it. Like I might come off as an angry person but really I'm just comfortable with how I feel because it's natural.

Like take what I said before about "what arguments are worth having". By writing this I'm in a way having an argument against an abstract idea, & now despite having a lot more to explore on this topic I feel like my energy & time for it is spent up so I'm gonna end the thread now

I'm basically fascinated by everything like this and the act of trying to understand people and the way we are.