This might be a small essay for the website, but for now? Y& #39;all get a thread. Let& #39;s talk about interacting on this application and about the two sides of honesty.

Please note: this [is not] a moment for drags or combat. That& #39;s not needed. I want you to listen, think, & apply. /1

Just minutes ago, I had this particular conversation on this application. Here& #39;s the sum up:

https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🌻" title="Sonnenblume" aria-label="Emoji: Sonnenblume">topic was indication
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🌻" title="Sonnenblume" aria-label="Emoji: Sonnenblume">person appears to tell me this isn& #39;t for them
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🌻" title="Sonnenblume" aria-label="Emoji: Sonnenblume">i explain this convo isn& #39;t for them
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🌻" title="Sonnenblume" aria-label="Emoji: Sonnenblume">"sorry for thinking you wanted an honest opinion"

It& #39;s... unnecessary. /2

Now this person may or may not be following me right now, but if you still are, I want you especially to learn from this.

Did I want honest convo? Yes. The honest convo I asked for had an audience. The audience was "people who want to do collabs."

Label right on the tin. /3

But then you - as many others before and likely after - came to tell me "this isn& #39;t something I want to do, just offering my honest opinion."

People often appear in my threads with this energy as my response is, "Ah, then this convo isn& #39;t for you. Respectfully." /4

So you know, I mean that every time it is said: the convo isn& #39;t for you. If I& #39;m talking about pizza and you don& #39;t like pizza, telling me you don& #39;t like pizza isn& #39;t helpful nor is it the conversation I want to have.

If you come to give "honesty", then expect honesty in return. /5

And if what I have said causes reactions such as offense, mock offense, or "I& #39;m just being honest..." then let& #39;s ask the real question: why didn& #39;t you expect a response from me? Why does my honest response of, "hey, this wasn& #39;t intended for you" bother you so? /6

My only conclusion is that you are used to having your "honesty" unchallenged and I was an unwelcome intrusion upon that custom of yours, but consider: you came into my conversation.

Among friends and such, popping in with the occasional "ew" in jest is fine. Sure. But this? /7

This is unnecessary as is then presuming to be offended that I politely gave you the honesty you claim to be giving me.

Y& #39;all need to get real comfortable with people setting boundaries without flowery language if you& #39;re going to say things "just to be honest" /8

And if you aren& #39;t about that energy, then that& #39;s fine. You don& #39;t have to be, but you also don& #39;t have to follow me or comment on the things I post.

If you say something to me in a public forum, then as @chasinglux would say, "I talk back." Get comfy with that notion. /9

I& #39;m not going to tell y& #39;all "shutting up is a free action" today. I& #39;m going to tell you that you better get used to taking Ls in stride if you come incorrect. If you can& #39;t handle that, you have the right to remain silent.

Your move. /https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="✌️🏾" title="Siegeshand (durchschnittlich dunkler Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Siegeshand (durchschnittlich dunkler Hautton)">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="✨" title="Funken" aria-label="Emoji: Funken">