This might be a small essay for the website, but for now? Y'all get a thread. Let's talk about interacting on this application and about the two sides of honesty.

Please note: this [is not] a moment for drags or combat. That's not needed. I want you to listen, think, & apply. /1

Just minutes ago, I had this particular conversation on this application. Here's the sum up:

topic was indication
person appears to tell me this isn't for them
i explain this convo isn't for them
"sorry for thinking you wanted an honest opinion"

It's... unnecessary. /2

Now this person may or may not be following me right now, but if you still are, I want you especially to learn from this.

Did I want honest convo? Yes. The honest convo I asked for had an audience. The audience was "people who want to do collabs."

Label right on the tin. /3

But then you - as many others before and likely after - came to tell me "this isn't something I want to do, just offering my honest opinion."

People often appear in my threads with this energy as my response is, "Ah, then this convo isn't for you. Respectfully." /4

So you know, I mean that every time it is said: the convo isn't for you. If I'm talking about pizza and you don't like pizza, telling me you don't like pizza isn't helpful nor is it the conversation I want to have.

If you come to give "honesty", then expect honesty in return. /5

And if what I have said causes reactions such as offense, mock offense, or "I'm just being honest..." then let's ask the real question: why didn't you expect a response from me? Why does my honest response of, "hey, this wasn't intended for you" bother you so? /6

My only conclusion is that you are used to having your "honesty" unchallenged and I was an unwelcome intrusion upon that custom of yours, but consider: you came into my conversation.

Among friends and such, popping in with the occasional "ew" in jest is fine. Sure. But this? /7

This is unnecessary as is then presuming to be offended that I politely gave you the honesty you claim to be giving me.

Y'all need to get real comfortable with people setting boundaries without flowery language if you're going to say things "just to be honest" /8

And if you aren't about that energy, then that's fine. You don't have to be, but you also don't have to follow me or comment on the things I post.

If you say something to me in a public forum, then as @chasinglux would say, "I talk back." Get comfy with that notion. /9

I'm not going to tell y'all "shutting up is a free action" today. I'm going to tell you that you better get used to taking Ls in stride if you come incorrect. If you can't handle that, you have the right to remain silent.

Your move. /