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A tip, all of these relationship folks are a scam. All of them. The books. The talks. All offem. The sooner folks learn that, the better
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Work on YOU. Go to therapy. All of us need it. Work on you. Love yourself. Love yourself ALONE. If youâre happy & secure ALONE, no one will be able to come in & bring chaos into your life. Date for fun. If things get serious great. If not, have fun. There is no secrethttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="đ" title="Gesicht mit rollenden Augen" aria-label="Emoji: Gesicht mit rollenden Augen">
And men/masculine ppl who date femmes, yaâll need to know that women/femmes do not *need* yaâll for finances anymore. BW have always had to work anyway so, thereâs also that https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="đ" title="Gesicht mit rollenden Augen" aria-label="Emoji: Gesicht mit rollenden Augen">. But weâre not going backwards. So if you want a HAPPILY married wife in 2021-, adapt. Or donât.
Be friends. When the lust/sex/infatuation period is over, that friendship & respect is what matters. You donât need a book, seminar or an https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="âđ˝" title="Siegeshand (mittlerer Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Siegeshand (mittlerer Hautton)">experthttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="âđ˝" title="Siegeshand (mittlerer Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Siegeshand (mittlerer Hautton)">to tell you that. Trust ya gut. Work on *you*. Be happy alone. Das ithttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸" title="Achselzuckende Frau (mittlerer Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Achselzuckende Frau (mittlerer Hautton)">. Marriage or being a *wife\husband* is not...
...the goal. Being in a fulfilling, happy relationship where youâre respected, loved & encouraged to GROW is the goal. But you gotta have that relationship with *you* first. No expert is gonna tell you that. Their goal is for you to buy their books/listen to their podcasts.
Also, you & your partner are EQUALS. EQUALS. Why would you get into a relationship with someone who you donât think is as smart/wise/interesting as you think *you* are. How is that gonna last? Be secure enough to be with ppl who can teach *you* just as well as you teach them.
Whoever got the best idea/way to go, thatâs who leads in any situation. It ainât ______ is the sole leader of the household. A good team knows each others strengths & weaknesses. Ainât no gender roles. You do what works for& uplifts EVERYONE.
