A few years ago I struck up a friendship with a guy here. He knew I was happily married, my husband knew about our chats. The friendship started when he made comments about his depression and anxiety and felt invisible. I felt bad for him. We talked about life, our pasts 1/

and did so for months. It was a platonic friendship. Then one day out of the blue he sends me a pic of his erection. In his underwear. I immediately told him it was unwanted, not cool and inappropriate. He said he misunderstood signals. There were no signals. 2/

I opted to give him the benefit of the doubt. And a month later he sent me a video of him playing with himself through his pants.
I told him what I needed to.
He responded that I wouldn’t have talked to him or been his friend if that wasn’t what I really wanted. /3

Of course I blocked.
There was zero sexual conversation, or flirting or intimacy. But he interpreted my being nice as license to violate.
It happens everyday on here.
Had I publicly complained he would have said it was consensual because I chatted with him for months.

If someone wants to see your junk, you will know.
If you send it and she gets offended, then you have to learn what consent means.
And sure it’s not rape, but it’s a violation and predatory and manipulating, and disgusting.

And the excuse that she dangled it in front of me or was a c*ck tease or wanted it because she flirted with me and liked my attention is just as despicable and shows an incredible lack of emotional maturity and common sense.

So to reiterate, if you want to send her pics of your junk, ask her.
‘Would you like to see my dick?’
If she says no, she means no. And then there won’t be any confusion, or anymore of these conversations on here.
#BelieveWomen