Here comes that promised tweet thread.

So what is non-binary and what does being non-binary mean?

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First of all, non-binary is a vast umbrella term for anyone who does not fit completely within the cis binary.

It's not any single thing, so there's really no such thing as "looking non-binary." How I look and present myself will be different from other non-binary folk.

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I'm gonna back up a second and explain the different identities a bit.

There are binary trans men and women, non-binary trans folk, and non-binary folk. Not all non-binary people identify as trans, but there's space for us if we do. We're the white stripe in the flag.

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There are non-binary folk who are genderfluid, bigender, pangender, agender, or some variant on femme or masc where they partially but not fully identify. They're referred to as being demigender.

How people identify and feel about their gender varies. When in doubt, ask.

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I'm agender. I've never felt like I had a gender and knew this back from my teens. I just didn't know it was a thing and had a label. I went back and forth and was in denial and finally came out in October.

I also identify as trans cause I don't identify with my AGAB.

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AGAB = assigned gender at birth

You'll also find people who identify as non-binary but from the perspective of a different gender than they were assigned. They are non-binary trans masc or non-binary trans femme.

Elliot Page is an example.

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Different people have different pronouns, and pronouns are not gender identity. A lot of non-binary folk use they/them like I do but some are comfortable with some or all pronouns. Some even prefer neopronouns such as xe/xem, ver/vers, etc.

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We LOVE it when cis folk put their pronouns in their name or bio and offer them up cause it normalizes the notion that not only are pronouns != presentation or gender identity, but it prevents us from outing ourselves if we don't want.

So normalize that shit, and thanks.

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I'm taking any questions or comments people have to offer and if other non-binary folk want to chime in, feel free. But this is a quick primer and is no means a full documentary or anything.

But we've been around for millennia. We aren't new, we just faced colonization.

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