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[Thread : thoughts about adults/children]
Adult this, adult that. I don& #39;t know, there is a new way of hating youngers and I& #39;m not really at ease with it. But at the same time, they& #39;re not untouchable, and deserve respect while adults can show them what can be wrong. +
Adult this, adult that. I don& #39;t know, there is a new way of hating youngers and I& #39;m not really at ease with it. But at the same time, they& #39;re not untouchable, and deserve respect while adults can show them what can be wrong. +
As personal experience, I hated my parents, because I expected them to be someone they COULDN& #39;T BE. Their story are deep and so wounded that now, I can& #39;t justify my old past, even if I still can understand how I could think of them like that. As a "child", I expected what ideal +
adult would be. Protective, supportive, loving no matter what. My parents were, but in their odd way. So, now I think again about this.
Abused (or even not) people, when they are younger, expect any adult to be an ideal role model, as they don& #39;t find it around them. +
Abused (or even not) people, when they are younger, expect any adult to be an ideal role model, as they don& #39;t find it around them. +
But nobody is perfect. And nobody can 100% fill your ideals, which will change during your life time.
Everyone has a different experience, even between siblings.
As studies show since long time ago, when a generation is more about liberty, the next one is more about morality. +
Everyone has a different experience, even between siblings.
As studies show since long time ago, when a generation is more about liberty, the next one is more about morality. +
(Well, sorry it& #39;s pretty messy.)
Adults aren& #39;t perfect so they don& #39;t have to be untouchable by the holy "I lived more things than you and you& #39;re younger so stfu". But young person shouldn& #39;t be neither, as they can& #39;t have all experience and brandish that their age is an excuse. +
Adults aren& #39;t perfect so they don& #39;t have to be untouchable by the holy "I lived more things than you and you& #39;re younger so stfu". But young person shouldn& #39;t be neither, as they can& #39;t have all experience and brandish that their age is an excuse. +
Adults were kids. And even youngers feel that feeling than a 50 yo is way childish than them. And that& #39;s true!
What is an adult? Just a 18+ yo?
It means n o t h i n g.
I can& #39;t, even in my situation (married and waiting a child), imagine that I& #39;m an adult. I don& #39;t feel right. +
What is an adult? Just a 18+ yo?
It means n o t h i n g.
I can& #39;t, even in my situation (married and waiting a child), imagine that I& #39;m an adult. I don& #39;t feel right. +
Because, it& #39;s not you or your age which define this. It& #39;s the maturity, and as beauty, it& #39;s TOTALLY SUBJECTIVE AND BIASED.
Age is just here to define rights. And if it changes, as laws does with time and society, if you& #39;re in it suddenly, then what? How can you hide? +
Age is just here to define rights. And if it changes, as laws does with time and society, if you& #39;re in it suddenly, then what? How can you hide? +
Also, olders are abusing of power toward youngers, but you& #39;ll see it will stay until you& #39;re THE older. Even as "adult", I still be seen as a kid, and that& #39;s... Somehow normal? I can& #39;t have all experience that even a +2 yo can. I don& #39;t say that in every situation it& #39;s OK.Ofc not.+
But not every time they& #39;re evil. You can learn to separate personality/personal convictions/situations between you and the one you& #39;re talking.+
You can feel disappointed because an older don& #39;t think/feel like you. But canceling them because they don& #39;t fit your (surely impossible) expectations isn& #39;t right.
They& #39;re human and deserve rights, as young do. +
They& #39;re human and deserve rights, as young do. +
Why should adulthood be no fun and no joy? Everyone does enjoy something and can share about it in their way! (Ethical or not... It& #39;s another question.)
The way youngers can cancel or judge olders because they express as they want and can is pressuring.+
The way youngers can cancel or judge olders because they express as they want and can is pressuring.+
No one should have to justify anything to have fun and speak about it. Why should NA/ND should be the only one to be able to express in some ways, for example ? Normalizing that we shouldn& #39;t be "weird", and anyone can be, is better than having a "pass to act as". +
It& #39;s something absurd I& #39;ve seen in some communities. Why allowing "rights" like that? It harms more than do good, to separate ppl by their behavior/liking like before they get more recognition.
It& #39;s surely badly written and explained. But I hope you get the idea. +
It& #39;s surely badly written and explained. But I hope you get the idea. +
So, as I said, it& #39;s pressuring to be judge 24/7 about how we should appear to anyone, when online life is completely different than offline, and social media too.
It feels like high school era. I can say that "adult world" can looks like, as it can be completely different. ±
It feels like high school era. I can say that "adult world" can looks like, as it can be completely different. ±
I won& #39;t hide myself behind my story, because brandishing it isn& #39;t an master key to hide behind. How many ppl did I see harm and abuse others because of that and justify that it was not them?! While it& #39;s never a justification, it can help to understand you, but nothing more.+
YOU choose who you want to be. It can be completely messed up, fucked up and like starting from the void to access to anything just a bit more bearable, but you can, I promise. Alone or not. Helped or not. Shortly or with all your life time. It& #39;s possible to find a way. +
This thread is a pure mess but :
- to young people : accept that life isn& #39;t just norms and can be more complex. You can& #39;t understand everything, neither the most olders do. That human life is more valuable than fiction. That if you& #39;re hurt about something, +
- to young people : accept that life isn& #39;t just norms and can be more complex. You can& #39;t understand everything, neither the most olders do. That human life is more valuable than fiction. That if you& #39;re hurt about something, +
Please protect yourself by activating every possible means, and if you need to and can without danger, try to talk to the person about it without blaming them first (if it wasn& #39;t intentional ofc).
"Adults" are human as you can be, and they just can have a life too. +
"Adults" are human as you can be, and they just can have a life too. +
Also, it& #39;s easy to want justice when you feel like shit about how you& #39;re treated. But wanting whitest white can turn to be just performance and rage. Acceptation and learning from communities all kind of view will help you to construct your thinking. During all your life. +
To olders : it can be hard to look at who we could be or who we could have been. Even if it& #39;s sometimes annoying, please be kind as possible too. You don& #39;t deserve the anger, it& #39;s true. But using the same tactics as predecessors to shut the younger because of their age isn& #39;t +
better. We should have feedbacks from youth, or we will be stuck in the same system without improving it. As anything, there is always nuances, but the anti movement is just a new way to express something that don& #39;t work anymore, and we ALL should think about. +
