now that i’m here can we talk about the “you don’t owe anyone anything” motivational tweet that’s been circling around twitter for years? bc i got shit to say

i know it started as a way for people to value themselves & their time and i think that’s important. value yourself and your time, no questions/excuses/answers.

i think what it turned into is gross. no connection can be formed without giving a part of yourself to someone, without receiving parts of someone else. i don’t mean the deep dark parts of you/them. I mean any part.

it’s become a way for people to avoid accountability bc “i don’t owe anyone anything” it’s this nonchalant, idgaf, fuck YOUR time/feelings energy that’s gross? you can protect yourself without being a flat out dick. am i making sense?

don’t bleed yourself dry. but also don’t just expect people to bleed dry for you and then be pissed when they say no? being human is all about the push and pull, the give and take. it’s a wierd sort of balance, not split right down the middle, not even all the time but still

i feel like in this mass consumer, capitalist world we live in people forget that the base of human connection isn’t saying yes to everything or no to everything. it’s not taking everything personally or being blasé abt everything. it’s knowing when to give your time & energy

and when to take a step back. it’s hard as fuck, ESPECIALLY with the way we take things in nowadays but y’all pls just b nice to your friends lol. do better for yourself and others bc it’s not all ME/YOU/THEM. it’s everything.

(this isn’t a “let’s all live in peace, no matter our politics” thread btw. all right-wing/conservative/republicans can die)