I might present the Wesleyan position on women in ministry and leadership something like as follows.
A Wesleyan argument for full leadership and ministry by women:

1. Patriarchy (more recently given a nice name, "complementarianism") is a consequence of sin and the fall.

2. We are not surprised to find that the Day of Pentecost is the ultimate unwinding of patriarchy. "Your sons and daughters will prophesy" (Acts 2:17). "In Christ there is not 'male and female'" (Gal. 3:28).

... We differ nothing in spirit or mind, only in body, and the male sexual body is not particularly known for its spiritual or prudent leadership.

3. And this is the trajectory of heaven and the kingdom, because in the kingdom women "are not married or given in marriage" (Mark 12:25). They are like the angels with full and equal status, not in subjection to men.

4. This salvation from the Fall peaks through in the OT. Deborah is the highest political authority in Israel over all men. Huldah is the highest spiritual authority in Israel over all men. At the very least, this shows that patriarchy is neither absolute nor intrinsic to nature.

5. This full restoration of humanity is in view in the ministry of the early church--Junia, an apostle (Rom. 16:7); Phoebe, a deacon (Rom. 16:1); Priscilla, the teacher of Apollos (Acts 18:26); Lydia, the house-church leader (Acts 16:15). The Holy Spirit is the great equalizer.

6. This is hard for some people, even Christians, to handle. Culture is too strong. God meets people where they are and moves them from there. God accommodates the less than ideal in Scripture (e.g., Matthew. 19:8) because the books of the Bible were first written to real people.

... Ironically, those in the church who oppose women in leadership and ministry focus on verses where the approach is not distinctive from the culture but accommodates it for contextual reasons (e.g., 1 Tim. 2:12; Col. 3:18).

But if we can make the church, let alone the world, move closer to the kingdom, why would we settle for the "weak and impoverished elements" of the world (Gal. 4:9). The church thus should favor the full participation of women in ministry and leadership on every level.