I think a lot of the time, worrying about being able to "find love" is actually very little about love, a thing that people do by accident for basically no reason and with little to no evaluation or planning. The worry is about being accepted or validated in a more specific way.

Love is going to happen no matter what. The endlessly difficult thing is being able to build the life you want in the kind of household that makes sense for you. This is made even more difficult by assuming that these things should follow directly as a result of falling in love.

In many ways, this absolutely is made more difficult by the way society treats those of us who do not fit. But that problem is not the same as the question of whether people will love you. The challenge is how we build supportive relationships that actually suit us.