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Before you insist that you, too, are affected by transmisognyny and therefore the language TMA/TME is insufficient, consider how it would feel to experience transmisognyny as a constant, enduring, all-encompasing force in your life.
Dwell on the ways that transfems in particular are dehumanized and objectified. Mull on how our bodies are one of cishetero-patriarchy's prime examples of the abject.
If you're mistaken for a transfem and you're called a tranny, a trap, a delusional man, a male, a TiM, a predator - do you really internalize it?Does it make you doubt the most fundamentally true aspects of your self?
Does it make you feel disgusting and worthless and inhuman in an enduring way? Does it make you cry? Does it make you cry days later?
Do these dynamics replicate themselves in queer spaces in a way that affects you? Are you only ever affected when someone on the internet sees the trans flag in your display name? Would you ever be mistaken for a transfem irl?
I don't think y'all understand any of this. Transmisognyny isn't *just* fear of being called a slur, being physically attacked, or even institutionalized violence. All of those things are EXTREMELY violent and yes they can affect you even though they primarily target us
You shouldn't be centering yourself wrt those things either, but there's also more to it than that. There's a greater impact that you're exempt from. There's a crushing weight we have to shoulder that you're exempt from because you're *not* who they're talking about.
We *are* who they're talking about. Our minds, our bodies, our souls, our actions. Every moment of my existence is involuntary passed through the traumatic machine that is transmisognyny, against my will and with sweeping, long-lasting consequences. Do you get it?
I'm sorry I keep tweeting about this but it's STILL all over my timeline so no I will not shut up 
Experiencing misrecognition through transmisogynist violence as someone who is not a transfem oftentimes causes a recoil, this "eugh, that's not me!"
Then claiming you're TMA, despite the recoil being *produced* by misrecognition itself, is a perpetuation of transmisognyny
Then claiming you're TMA, despite the recoil being *produced* by misrecognition itself, is a perpetuation of transmisognyny
The recoil itself - reacting by asserting distance from transfemininity - is transmisogyny.
You get to recoil & shrug it off while co-opting being TMA because that's *not* you
But your ability to do this is granted precisely BECAUSE you're TME.
You get to recoil & shrug it off while co-opting being TMA because that's *not* you
But your ability to do this is granted precisely BECAUSE you're TME.
We don't have that privilege. We have to absorb and stomach the full impact of this violence because that *is* us they're talking about. That's what it means to be TMA.
Wait okay there's a 4th step in this process:
1. Recoil at misrecognition by distancing self from transfemininity
2. Shrugging off the violence, enabled by TME privilege
3. Co-optation of TMA language despite having distanced from transfemininity & shrugged at the affect
1. Recoil at misrecognition by distancing self from transfemininity
2. Shrugging off the violence, enabled by TME privilege
3. Co-optation of TMA language despite having distanced from transfemininity & shrugged at the affect
and then
4. Demanding transfeminine people not use the language that was co-opted.
4. Demanding transfeminine people not use the language that was co-opted.
The ability to demand that we refrain from using particular language to describe the violence we're affected by is, again, enabled precisely by being exempt from transmisognyny. We don't have that luxury. Without these words there are no words to situate ourselves in this system
And I say there are no words not because new language won't or can't be created, but because there will never be language sufficient enough to satisfy transmisognyny. The problem isn't the language itself and it never has been
If we weren't talking about TMA/TME, we'd be having this discussion about something else transfems were saying about transmisognyny that TME people would have strong reactions to.
This language, specifically, doesn't matter. The latent intent of this process is enforcing and perpetuating transmisognyny. Reactionary transmisogyny masking itself as discourse and critique of language when the function would work perfectly fine with different inputs.
This groundswell of reactionary transmisognyny from TME queer people echoes the increase in reactionary anti-trans bills around the US. It's a response to our voices being elevated as many of these bills primarily target, or disproportionately harm, transfems.
That's it for now thanks for reading please follow me 
My wife said this is unclear so let me clarify!
I'm trying to say:
-reactionary institutionalized transmisognyny is accelerating
-trans women are speaking up about it as many of the bills target transfems specifically
And..... https://twitter.com/bbcuhrin/status/1386471111035084803?s=19
I'm trying to say:
-reactionary institutionalized transmisognyny is accelerating
-trans women are speaking up about it as many of the bills target transfems specifically
And..... https://twitter.com/bbcuhrin/status/1386471111035084803?s=19
-TME queer people are participating in reactionary transmisognyny in response to transfems being centered in conversations about violence that targets transfems.
It's all part of the same phenomenon.
It's all part of the same phenomenon.
