Fantastic Question. We can do it through a couple of ways.

- By educating boys. I tell young men. The girls you will marry in the future would not look like or behave like your mother. They are alpha women who know their rights not as women but as human beings.

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- By helping men build capacity. By the time, a girl is 18, she has learnt how to cook, how to do domestic work, how to take care of younger ones all while masking pain from her monthly menstrual flow. She has learnt from an early age how to multi-task. #MindTheGaps

When she is overwhelmed, she knows how to offload by talking about it or crying to relieve stress. All these has built her capacity to handle crisis. The boy on the other hand has been shielded from all these. He has been told, boys don't cry, they don't talk,

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.....they don't belong in the kitchen, they must be strong & never show weakness. These boys with low capacity will later marry girls with higher capacity & you wonder why marriages are failing. The solution to this is to help the boy build capacity from a young age. #MindTheGaps

- Fight Stigma: We do this by encouraging men to speak up and once they do, we rally round them and call them survivors. Because they are survivors too. An equitable society is one that recognizes the rights of all and not just the right of one.

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While men don't need another #MeToo movement to advocate & focus on male concerns, we can rally round each other to provide support. There are a lot of groups and networks in Nigeria focused on boys and men as well as male mentors like @dejiirawo. Look for them. END. #MindTheGaps