There is a big difference between having a genuine connection with someone, that is reciprocated and desired by both people involved without claiming ownership of that person VS claiming someone to be “ your person” despite that person making it clear they don’t feel the same

There is nothing wrong with having feelings for someone from your past, or even hoping to reconcile. As long as you respect that persons free will and don’t try and control them or their feelings. Trying to manipulate someone into your life through ‘manifestation’ is not right.

I see a lot of obsessiveness with people claiming someone as “ their person” against that persons free will. Me and people I know have experienced people doing this to us and it’s not nice. It puts you in a very uncomfortable position, knowing someone is claiming you as theirs.

I fully believe in connections like twin flames / soulmates etc but for me personally, I prefer not to label these things. The label has been made into something that many people use to enable toxic behaviour, despite the actually connections themselves originating from the

Opposite of that. Whatever you label these things, it should be about pure love and connection with yourself and that person. I’m not trying to shame anyone with this thread either. It’s okay to learn and grow from behaviours you previously thought were right.

I just think that the main focus should always be on yourself and not trying to control another. If you truly believe someone is meant to be in your life, you don’t have to force them to. Also, despite the label you put on a connection you shouldn’t let someone overstep your

Own boundaries. Yes you may have a strong connection but that doesn’t mean it’s all going to be perfect either. Communication of what’s bothering each of you is so important, you can’t just rely on tarot or something to tell you how that person feels! Just ask them and express

Yourself. ALSO ( I feel like I’m going on many tangents here but fuck it ) if someone is mentally, emotionally or physically harming / abusing you, they are NOT your twin flame / soulmate or whatever. They are not a good person and you should not stay in that connection.

Be aware of ‘readers’ who exploit you & tell you it’s a good idea to stay with someone abusive. Please follow your gut feeling and don’t keep yourself in harmful situations. You deserve so much better than that.

Domestic abuse helpline

UK- 0808 2000 247
US- 1.800.799.7233

Anyway, I guess this is just my insight and at the end of the day, it’s up to you what you do, but my advice would be to go within and find out why you are feeling so obsessed with a person. In my experience it usually comes from some sort of co dependency from childhood

Which is something to be kind to yourself about and but also recognise and work on. It’s unfair to put that onto someone else who has made it clear they aren’t wanting a connection. I know that can be hurtful but it’s not up to them to fill a wound you have either. Look after

Yourself first. Learn where your triggers stem from and focus on you. If something is meant to work out in the future, then it will! You won’t have to control that.