The sacred triad of sustainable friendship or relationship:

1. You share the same core values.

2. You receive and communicate information in similar ways.

3. You can speak each other's love language.
If there's friction in any of these 3 areas, the relationship will need a good measure of sacrifice, counselling, hard work and stubborn committment. This assumes you even have the emotional, spiritual and physical energy to make things work.
Whenever I hear of how the older generation "sacrificed" in their relationships, I wonder about the following:

1. What had to die for the relationship to survive? (Sacrifice)

2. Who intervened? (Family? Pastor?)
3. How much energy, health and well-being went into sustaining the relationship? (Hard work + commitment)
4. Where did they find the energy? (Religion? Cultural norms? Not having to deal with current energy sappers - tech, traffic, oppressive economy etc)? Presence of community support?)
Ultimately, my main wonder is around culture. Whenever cultural norms shift in any society, EVERYTHING fundamental shifts. EVERYTHING.
If you are a student of culture, you can predict where a society is headed. The data always moves in the direction of cultural shifts.
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