You don’t need to be a billionaire to become financially stable. Having a job with a regular flow of income or inheritance that pays your bills can put you on that path.

I have been reading a lot of defensive replies from women after Omotola said that ladies should

be financially stable before getting married. Some have been asking if she was financially stable when she married at 19, as if that was an impossible thing to do.

If you are unemployed, broke, living off your parents as an adult and you decide to get married,

you will only be shifting the responsibilities from your parents to your husband. The question becomes, does he earn enough to support someone who is unemployed for a long time? When kids come and you are still unemployed, can his salary support everyone?

This is usually how families sink into a financial mess that they can’t get out of.

While I don’t expect you to turn down a marriage proposal because you are unemployed, you need to understand the consequences of not bringing anything to the table early on.

You need to have a plan for yourself and your family. No one likes being stuck with a liability. Money gives you choices. For example, many women are stuck in abusive marriages because they don’t have the finances to leave. If they leave, they will starve to death.

So there’s no need being defensive. Get your life together instead of feeling sorry for yourself.