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i& #39;ve come to realize na ayaw ko sa call out culture. they say na ang purpose is to educate pero parang solely pamamahiya ang nangyayari. it all depends naman sa weight ng mistakes nila pero most of the time, ang unnecessary and could& #39;ve discussed it in private and politely. 1/n
kasi una, if y& #39;all won& #39;t compromise and make amends in private tapos biglang ic-call out, ano mararamdaman ng tao? malamang, shock and embarrassment na maglelead sa pagiging defensive nya. kahit na alam nyang mali siya, pero dahil they& #39;re embarrassed. 2/n
they& #39;ll be super defensive about it lalo na kung sa social media cinall out, where we carefully take care of our public images and personalities. they& #39;ll try to save their image. pangalawa, mostly sa call out culture nagiging destructive instead na constructive ang criticism. 3/n
and that is bec mga peti bourgeois tayo and we always want to sound morally right and politically correct. in short, nandyan yung urge na magpataasan ng ihi. and once we& #39;re so full of ourselves di na natin narerealize na we& #39;re being destructive and dismissive. 4/n
yall say na concern kayo kaya nyo cinall out, if y& #39;all are truly concerned, kausapin nyo muna privately. i-educate nyo sa paraang hindi offensive at judgmental. sinasabi nyo we all deserve 2nd chance pero quick to call out agad kayo w/o discussing it privately with the person 5/n
not to mention the toll it& #39;ll take on their mental health. pls haha everyone is allowed to grow and change. don& #39;t hinder it by being destructive, dismissive and insensitive. 6/n
next time y& #39;all think about calling out someone, analyze the weight of their mistakes and talk to them first. kung madadaan ba sa private na usapan or hindi. kung sincere ba sila and open sila na makinig at mag-change or hindi. mararamdaman naman natin yon. 7/n
enough with the unnecessary call outs na avoidable naman, hindi lahat kailangan i-publicize sa social media. hindi lahat kailangan ng audience. don& #39;t let other people butt in to your businesses kung hindi naman kailangan. 8/n
also, if y& #39;all are so keen to call out someone else, make sure na y& #39;all practice that sa circle of friends nyo or even sa sarili niyo. mamaya nangtotolerate na pala kayo just bec y& #39;all are friends ahahah wag sanang passive at performative. 9/n
i honestly think oks lang mang call out if notorious yung tao. gaslighter, manipulative, cheater, rapist, abuser or harasser ganyan. pero if it& #39;s a couple of mistakes na kayang idaan sa pange-educate at usapan, bakit hindi kayo doon unang magresort? 10/10
