as a mlm person i am asking you guys to pleasse look at some resources about racial and wlw fetishization, understand how it effects people's everyday lives and how they interact w others, and understand how bad it looks to just be throwing the word fetishization around

here's an article about racial fetishization https://www.forbes.com/sites/janicegassam/2021/02/07/what-is-fetishization-and-how-does-it-contribute-to-racism/?sh=1866d7d06e39

and on the fetishization of lesbian and bisexual women https://info.umkc.edu/womenc/2014/04/18/the-fetishization-of-lesbians-and-bisexual-women/

not saying mlm ppl hv never been fetishized but u have to understand it happens way less often and it effects our everyday lives sm less. i've never felt unsafe or uncomfortable over something relating to me being mlm the way poc or wlw ppl are. think about the words you use.