Derren Brown's "The Push" is really pretty great, I think it's insightful as to some of the stuff going on in the gender debates.

It's on Netflix.

Social compliance, I learned about in secondary school, doing my psychology GCSE, and it is TERRIFYING.
It was a lesson that changed my whole life and my character.

When I subsequently did A Level Sociology, my teacher demonstrated social compliance, by going round and whacking all the students in the class over the head with his file.

I was not having it
I whacked him right back with my file.

He said to the whole class that he had been teaching the same lesson in the same way for twenty years, and he had waited twenty years for somebody to have the courage to do what I did, and he shook my hand at the end of the lesson.
And he said only a few words to me, but I'll treasure them all my life.

I'm not going to write them here, but it was the first time in my whole life I had felt genuinely seen, like somebody had seen me not for my awkward wee self, but for the ideal I was trying to live up to.
I have, all my life, felt that the cost of my radical non compliance was that I'll always be an outsider

I'll never really "fit in," coz to "fit in" you have to conform to social norms, rather than your values and ideals.

But I feel like I fit in alright here, on gc/lgb twitter
I feel like there's a good number of you might have hit my teacher with the file, or (perhaps better), told him not to hit children.

Or found some other creative way to resist

He got to me about 5th to last out of a class of 20

I sometimes wonder, what if he got to me first?
Would my classmates have been emboldened and joined me?

I hope, I really hope that they might have been.

But I dunno, I was a weird kid, an outsider, not a leader, so I dunno.
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