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So, what& #39;s happened recently with someone in the pokemon community is horrible and I& #39;m so sorry to everyone who was deeply hurt by this person& #39;s actions and words. I had just started talking to this person and they gave me their side of the story while keeping their actions-
pretty vague. They made their actions sound a lot more reasonable and well-explained when they discussed them with me and until I got information from two other friends, they made me think a lot of this was due to misunderstandings or their intentions not being properly-
understood, along with the idea that people weren& #39;t being honest with them. Honesty is something I take very seriously, so this specific detail had me thinking a lot of this woulda been avoided had more communication been done. However, communication was DEFINITELY had-
and that they disregarded some critiques, and defended a lot of their actions. They would tell me that they hurt people and that people were reasonably hurt, but really redacted a lot of what EXACTLY they had done that hurt people, or made their cases seem reasonable-
and that everyone else was jumping to conclusions or that fiction was being regarded more seriously that real people and basically, I was redacted many details that were both necessary and very disturbing in order to have the full picture.
No one should ever feel like their identity is something to be ashamed of, or that they get special treatment for it. (I /know/ this person knows lgbt people and poc do not have it easy in this life.) Just because we feel more comfortable online, doesn& #39;t mean we& #39;re not in danger-
on here or in the real world. No one should feel like their hard work and dedication is something to feel guilty about because someone else thinks they should be getting the same attention or customers, but aren& #39;t.
I am especially appalled finding out the kind of manipulation tactics this person used against people to get things out of them. It just made everything they told me pale in comparison to what they actually did.
Ultimately I think this person really needs to step back from the internet and really take into account everything they have been critiqued for and do some personal growth. I don& #39;t think they& #39;re a horrible person at heart, but their actions are unacceptable and just-
how many people they have hurt and manipulated is jarring. I feel very lied to and it stings. I& #39;m very tired of dealing with situations like these and it& #39;s the reason why I& #39;m hesitant to get too close to people these days outside of my long time friends.
Just...please, if your friends tell you something you& #39;re doing is wrong or hurting people. Listen. Actually put the effort to grow from your mistakes and don& #39;t just go on about how much it sucks to have done the things you did. DO something about that behavior.
If you really honestly feel bad about the things you& #39;ve done and the harm you& #39;ve caused, then stop the pity parties, stop the "I& #39;m a bad person" crap, actually work on the negatives about yourself.
It& #39;s not easy! It& #39;s a lot of work! It& #39;s a lot of sitting down and being honest with yourself about what is wrong with you and what bad things you do! It& #39;s /HARD/! But you gotta do it if you honestly and truly feel bad about the harm you& #39;ve caused people.
And it& #39;s not like we can expect change to happen at the drop of a hat, people will need time and slip ups will happen...no one is perfect! But just...make the sacrifices. Do what you know is right and what should be done. Be honest.
Again, I think this person has the capacity to grow, anyone does, but to get better you need to fully acknowledge that you were wrong, and I mean /fully/ acknowledge. You can& #39;t just say that you& #39;re aware of what you do is wrong and then turn around and keep doing those things-
and not being entirely honest about what exactly was going on. I feel like I& #39;m repeating myself at this point. I& #39;m just really tired.
My final thoughts: What this person has done is awful, the people hurt are very valid in feeling this way, I think there are definitely problems in this community but people standing up for themselves and speaking up about unacceptable behavior is not one of them-
and ultimately I hope everyone affected will be alright. I hope this person does genuinely reflect on what they& #39;ve done and grow and become someone who won& #39;t do this to others again. Everyone deserves a chance to be better if they truly work for it.
I think I personally need to take a step back from this community for a bit after having another experience that has tarnished my trust in others. I will still post drawings here and there, but I am deeply sorry if I& #39;m not as talkative or social after this.
I know a lot of you are genuinely happy to be around me and genuinely want to know me better and have fun conversations with me, and I am deeply sorry to you. But these occurrences have been so heavy for me it genuinely just drains me and scares me.
I never know who is being honest with me or not and that also causes me great anxiety and just know that if I do ever do something that doesn& #39;t sit right with you, or if I& #39;ve done something you weren& #39;t okay with, or if you need my side of any story, you are very open to!
I think...I& #39;m done with this thread. Thank you for reading and take care of yourselves, and each other, during this time.
