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You don't kill the ego.
You tame the ego.
If you try killing the ego, then you get a 'nice guy.'
If you try taming the ego, you get social & emotional intelligence.
You tame the ego.
If you try killing the ego, then you get a 'nice guy.'
If you try taming the ego, you get social & emotional intelligence.
'I think I get what you're saying. But I don't think 100% get it.'
Which part?
'Actually, I don't get it at all.'
ok, lets start with the basics
Which part?
'Actually, I don't get it at all.'
ok, lets start with the basics
What is the nice guy?
'A person who is kind?'
Not quite
Kind and nice are different at a fundamental level
'A person who is kind?'
Not quite
Kind and nice are different at a fundamental level
The nice guy may say a real or fake message with polite delivery
The kind guy will say a real message with polite delivery
The kind guy will say a real message with polite delivery
The core philosophy of the nice guy is to be accepted.
The core philosophy of the kind guy is to express truth.
Confusing 1 for the other seems like a small mistake
But it can lead to a lot of heartache
The core philosophy of the kind guy is to express truth.
Confusing 1 for the other seems like a small mistake
But it can lead to a lot of heartache
With that out of the way...
What is emotional intelligence & social intelligence?
Think about it
What is emotional intelligence & social intelligence?
Think about it
Emotional intelligence is when the mind has understanding of the differnet sprectrum of emotions that one expereinces.
Understanding leads to control.
This is the essence of thick skin & integrity in one's action
Understanding leads to control.
This is the essence of thick skin & integrity in one's action
Emotional intelligence is an internal game.
Social intelligence is the external version of that. how well you deal with people & see yourself in them
Emotional and social intelligence are cousins.
One influences the other
Social intelligence is the external version of that. how well you deal with people & see yourself in them
Emotional and social intelligence are cousins.
One influences the other
You with me so far?
'Yea, this is all making sense.'
Okay.
Now is the time to talk about the ego
'Yea, this is all making sense.'
Okay.
Now is the time to talk about the ego
The ego is one's identity.
What is it, or who is it that they are identifying as?
This is a deep philosophical question
What is it, or who is it that they are identifying as?
This is a deep philosophical question
What the ego identifies with is what creates the narrative of thoughts in the mind
The mind is made up of:
ego, intellect, memory & data from the senses
The mind is made up of:
ego, intellect, memory & data from the senses
The ego gets all the memory & past data...
Then creates narratives out of that
Then creates narratives out of that
'Wait, you're losing me. You're saying the ego creates narratives on its own?'
That is correct.
This is why I say you don't learn storytelling, you just make yourself aware that you always do it
That is correct.
This is why I say you don't learn storytelling, you just make yourself aware that you always do it
To give you an example...
Let's say someone cuts you off in traffic.
And you decide not to cut them back off.
Still though, you feel rage
Let's say someone cuts you off in traffic.
And you decide not to cut them back off.
Still though, you feel rage
Once you see your friend later, they can tell something is wrong.
They ask whatsup
And you (without any conscious thought) start spilling a narrative of what just happened
They ask whatsup
And you (without any conscious thought) start spilling a narrative of what just happened
"You won't believe it! This goon just almost killed me & I just escaped death by inches, blah blah blah."
You are SEEMLESSLY creating a narrative.
There is a character in your tale
There is a conflict
It's working it's way to the ending
Sound familiar?
You are SEEMLESSLY creating a narrative.
There is a character in your tale
There is a conflict
It's working it's way to the ending
Sound familiar?
'Oh shit! That's a story.'
Correct.
Humans tell stories on autopilot, because that's how the ego is wired.
Correct.
Humans tell stories on autopilot, because that's how the ego is wired.
'And why am I not killing it?'
Well, this is where your core philsophy comes
-Some cultures believe in destroying identity to attain truth
-Other cultures believe in preserving identity so it can experience truth
This thread is for the latter
Well, this is where your core philsophy comes
-Some cultures believe in destroying identity to attain truth
-Other cultures believe in preserving identity so it can experience truth
This thread is for the latter
Picture your phone.
I'm sure your phone has much different content than my phone.
Different apps, different photos, different text messages
That fair to say?
'Yes it is.'
I'm sure your phone has much different content than my phone.
Different apps, different photos, different text messages
That fair to say?
'Yes it is.'
What if we had identical phones?
'Eh, I wouldn't like that too much.'
Why?
'Because my phone represnets my unique life.'
That's correct.
Your phone (just like you) has an identity.
The identity isn't the problem.
Losing scope of the bigger picture is
'Eh, I wouldn't like that too much.'
Why?
'Because my phone represnets my unique life.'
That's correct.
Your phone (just like you) has an identity.
The identity isn't the problem.
Losing scope of the bigger picture is
If you were to start identifying as the phone, then we'd have a big problem
And likewise, when you start identifying with your story, then you'll have a big problem
And likewise, when you start identifying with your story, then you'll have a big problem
A lot of people are not living life
They are just re-experiencing their past in different contexts
I call that sleepwalking thru life
And they unfortunately learn, when they have little time left
They are just re-experiencing their past in different contexts
I call that sleepwalking thru life
And they unfortunately learn, when they have little time left
To escape this rat race for the mind, we need to stop identifying as the story & become the storyteller.
And this is the game of making awareness stronger than the mind
And this is the game of making awareness stronger than the mind
Awareness, consciousness, is the storyteller
Mind is the story
To tame the ego, detach from the ego.
To tame the ego, identify as awareness, the storyteller
Mind is the story
To tame the ego, detach from the ego.
To tame the ego, identify as awareness, the storyteller
This is where exercises like meditation, introspection, writing come in handy.
You don't need to do everyone of those exercises
But you should be doing atleast 1
I recommend starting off with writing
You don't need to do everyone of those exercises
But you should be doing atleast 1
I recommend starting off with writing
Writing allows you to see your story with the senses
It's a process called externalization
When inner thoughts are externalized
It's a process called externalization
When inner thoughts are externalized
That's what I do here on twitter
I externalize
And something as small as a Tweet shifts my identity at a core level
Allowing me to be the storyteller of my life, rather than the story
I externalize
And something as small as a Tweet shifts my identity at a core level
Allowing me to be the storyteller of my life, rather than the story
'Really?? Something small like a tweet can do that?'
Yes, as long as you have knowledge behind your act
Reading this thread gives you the knoweldge
So you're aware of the INTENT behind each tweet
Yes, as long as you have knowledge behind your act
Reading this thread gives you the knoweldge
So you're aware of the INTENT behind each tweet
The ego was not the enemy
The problem was identifying with it
The problem was identifying with it
The ego works in waves
It goes up
It goes down
It experiences joy
It experiences pain
It goes up
It goes down
It experiences joy
It experiences pain
The storyteller is the surfer
Riding the waves with grace
But never identifying as the waves
Riding the waves with grace
But never identifying as the waves
Tame the ego thru effort, grit & persistence
Strong communication
Powerful insights
And thick skin will all follow
For more practical mindset tips, follow @ArmaniTalks
Strong communication
Powerful insights
And thick skin will all follow
For more practical mindset tips, follow @ArmaniTalks
