Read on Twitter
22 years ago, Em & I started dating.
I said, "I like you but I plan to go into the ministry. I'll probably be poor, be gone a lot & people will hate me. If you aren't cool with that, this won't work."
22 years later, she's still by my side.
22 reflections on life with a wife...
I said, "I like you but I plan to go into the ministry. I'll probably be poor, be gone a lot & people will hate me. If you aren't cool with that, this won't work."
22 years later, she's still by my side.
22 reflections on life with a wife...
1. Marry for demonstrated potential which is to say catch them on their way up.
2. Marry as young as reasonable so that you develop your tastes and habits as a couple.
3. Children are infinitely better than pets... so don’t delay having them.
2. Marry as young as reasonable so that you develop your tastes and habits as a couple.
3. Children are infinitely better than pets... so don’t delay having them.
4. Have frank discussions about sexual expectations with your spouse & have as much sex as you both can.
5. When arguing, stop & say “Hey, I love you. We are on the same side. Let’s work this out together.”
6. Pray together & share the things you’re learning from God’s Word.
5. When arguing, stop & say “Hey, I love you. We are on the same side. Let’s work this out together.”
6. Pray together & share the things you’re learning from God’s Word.
7. Take responsibility for your sins and failures by saying “I was wrong. There is no excuse. Please forgive me.”
8. Have a budget and have set times you can talk openly about finances.
9. Make five year plans with one year benchmarks and follow it.
8. Have a budget and have set times you can talk openly about finances.
9. Make five year plans with one year benchmarks and follow it.
10. Go to church every Sunday, even when on vacation.
11. Never have close opposite sex friends. Friends as a couple is okay but not as individuals.
12. Never let your kids play you against each other even if you agree with them. Work out it with your wife behind close doors.
11. Never have close opposite sex friends. Friends as a couple is okay but not as individuals.
12. Never let your kids play you against each other even if you agree with them. Work out it with your wife behind close doors.
13. Wives shouldn’t nag, husbands should follow through on promises they make.
14. If you forgave them, never bring it up again in an argument. It's dead. Don't resurrect it.
15. Don’t let her coddle the kids, don’t let him exasperate them (or vice versa).
14. If you forgave them, never bring it up again in an argument. It's dead. Don't resurrect it.
15. Don’t let her coddle the kids, don’t let him exasperate them (or vice versa).
16. Don’t overload your life with activities but rather maintain margin so you can work from rest.
17. Date night isn't a must but regular time alone together is.
17. Date night isn't a must but regular time alone together is.
18. The weight of a marriage will shift back and forth, especially early on.
19. If you support him, he'll get stronger. If you shield her, she stay beautiful.
19. If you support him, he'll get stronger. If you shield her, she stay beautiful.
20. Women cry like men sweat. Hold her and let cry. It's a good thing.
21. Keep short accounts. Don't let things stack up and when there is a blow up it won't be nuclear.
22. Divorce is ALMOST always worse than a difficult marriage. So work on & fight for your marriage.
21. Keep short accounts. Don't let things stack up and when there is a blow up it won't be nuclear.
22. Divorce is ALMOST always worse than a difficult marriage. So work on & fight for your marriage.
