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I read this loveliest article today, but I want to interrogate one but of it, because I see these unquestioned assumption a lot.
Is charting your own course better than following a map from your parents?
For me I think not, and I& #39;ll explain why.
Is charting your own course better than following a map from your parents?
For me I think not, and I& #39;ll explain why.
I grew up Protestant. We have a lot of church splits.
When I was 5, a group split off from my church. The vibe was exactly "I& #39;m not going to follow your map anymore." One of them had had a prophecy the church didn& #39;t recognise so they went their own way.
When I was 5, a group split off from my church. The vibe was exactly "I& #39;m not going to follow your map anymore." One of them had had a prophecy the church didn& #39;t recognise so they went their own way.
Most people have times in their lives when the map they were given seems wrong. You can cling to it anyways; you can trade it for a new map, like rationality or EA; you can make a new map (although many "new" maps I see reflect ideas that have been in the water for a while).
But sometimes you can also go back to your parents or community and say, "I don& #39;t understand this part. What& #39;s going on here?"
Questions like
-Why do you value children so much?
-Why didn& #39;t you want me to be a writer?
-What change to my life do you think would make it better?
Questions like
-Why do you value children so much?
-Why didn& #39;t you want me to be a writer?
-What change to my life do you think would make it better?
One of the reasons it& #39;s easy for me to advocate for this is that my parents are not intrusive. They generally wait until they& #39;re asked to give advice (unlike me!). And they& #39;ve also lived a life I really respect with regards to relationships with the people around them.
So I do intend to follow their map for community, friendships and marriage, hopefully improving upon it as I go so I can pass it on to my kids one day. And I hope my kids will value the lessons we& #39;ve learned and use that wisdom too.
I have been *ahem* informed that I forgot to link to this VERY LOVELY article (it will make your day) https://askpolly.substack.com/p/my-magic-is-disappearing">https://askpolly.substack.com/p/my-magi...
Also on the value of tradition: https://mobile.twitter.com/effendleton/status/1385893233750941698">https://mobile.twitter.com/effendlet...
