Dear newly wed couples

There are no rules that mandate you to produce offsprings within one year of your marriage.

Be calming down small small.

You need time to "cultivate" your partner and agree terms and conditions.

All those commitments you guys made before wedding were all Cupid's. Your heads were not there

You need time to make mistakes and forgive each other. Not that kind of mistake o. At least not necessarily that kind.

You need time to plan and make provisions for when those cherubs show up. Set up an education trust fund, some banks have some decent packages. Get a decent HMO for pre and post natal care.

Decide and cultivate the kind of spiritual ambience a home should have before bringing little cutie on board.

Plus you need time to know who you got married to. Many times it is "Israel" that showed up at the wedding, but its "Jacob" that manifested in the marriage.

You must know the two, dem be ejima.

You need time to build memories that become bulwarks should the wine run out in the marriage. These memories form restore points- a memory template you seek to re enact when it seems you two no longer recognise each other.

When the child shows up too soon, those saintly tots, sadly get caught in the cross fires of unresolved matters. At this point, the wife could quite easily redirect affection and time to the "third party" and Oga will feel neglected amd exposed.

I recommend you give yourselves time, at least one full year to blend well into each other.
Inlaws will still show and demand explanation for why tiny feet are not running "upadan" the house. Say cheese and tell them you are taking your time. Oh dear! God help you at that point.

The barrage you will receive will make you wonder if River Benue is on the map.

But then again, its your family. Run it your style. Above all put God first.

Happy Married Life.

Please tag young couples you know