The fact that some dudes haven't had any female interaction throughout their lives and basically think of girls as aliens are one day married off and given the responsibility of understanding, empathizing & satisfying the needs of a girl in all aspects bothers the hell out of me

I mean even if you're applying for a job you have to have internships or some form of interactive experience and here we neither teach nor train guys about the one job that they have to fulfill for life, for being responsible for a whole ass human that they don't understand.

Women are more emotional, guys are logical, they think being the provider would be enough logically because you're taking care of her & the family financially but they miss out on catering to her emotions without making a fuss about it or saying "Why are you so dramatic"

Now the problem is she doesn't know wtf is wrong you don't know wtf is wrong because you weren't prepared to go further than saying a hi to a girl let alone have her be dependent on you. You both stay dissatisfied & make your children your focus cuz shadi bhi tou chalani hai.

As a guy the toxicity around you wants you to be a Mard and ufff God forbid if a Mard can't keep his lady in line so she might raise her concerns not always directly cuz girls dont do that but you get triggered and have to teach her a lesson cuz aik Mard ki biwi na khush kese?

"Khandan walon ko pata lag gaya tou alag badnami hai lihaza isko daba kay rakho" little by little you both just tolerate eachother and call it compromise all because nobody took out the time to tell you how to communicate properly now add insecurity to the mix & wait for the mess

Now as a man you're expected to be perfect and know all these things with little or no guidance and it takes you a long time to slowly figure out on your own and by then its too late your kids are already traumatized by the relationship of their parents.

Girls are married in their early 20's during the fairytale years & even they're not taught what's about to come. Some don't know how to address their needs & when they're not met they just quietly accept the resentment as their naseeb cuz speaking up is treason

In conclusion a beautiful relationship suffers two people suffer & their children suffer all because we were too busy prepping them up to be parhaku & settled so they're ready for a good rishta but forgot to teach them the other values & tests that come with a marriage.