i gained a lot of followers in the past 48 hours so im going to have to figure out a way to scare away everyone incompatible with me. but that shouldn't be hard because any time i tweet something terrible i lose like 5 ppl, which is often.

have you ever thought about how what we define as a "kink" or "fetish" is dependant on cultural norms? for example what is considered "vanilla" is often itself mired in patriarchal heteronormativity, and various arbitrary cultural baggage

I can actually pinpoint the time in which homosexuality became more accepted in the US, and it coincided with the point at which prospective dating partners no longer considered m/f pegging to be a "kink" but just another way of having sex,

because to fully normalize homosexuality in its own terms, not through a heteronormative lens, is also to break down the idea that gender roles are intrinsic to a relationship

however, for those who cannot let go of a heteronormative gaze (and even queer ppl will do this), there is this lingering assumption that the "top" position is somehow dominant to the "bottom" position, and leads to annoying things like asking "who's the man" to a gay couple

homophobia, transphobia and patriarchy are actually all connected in this way. the people who hate lgbt people are in fact afraid of leaving this hierarchical gender structure and all of the attached stereotypes

you can especially tell because all of the homophobic rhetoric of the 20th century is now mirrored in transphobic rhetoric.

the hypervisibility of gay men and trans women, with stereotypes like "they'll endanger children in the bathrooms!" (not true). or bisexuals and nonbinary ppl thought of as "a woman who just wants attention" while ignoring bi men and amab nonbinary

they see gnc women and trans men as less threatening because it makes more sense to them for women to "upgrade" into a male status, thereby not upsetting the core idea of patriarchy

it coincides with the success of 20th century feminism allowing women to wear trousers, enter masculine-coded fields and jobs, but despite efforts men were (and still are) less willing to wear dresses and enter feminine-coded fields

the "predator" stereotypes are also rooted in patriarchy. the fact that transphobes/homophobes main concern is women and children being unsafe in bathrooms comes ultimately from the stereotype that men/masculine people are uncontrollably horny while women must remain pure virgins

it's also why transphobes/homophobes are often conservatives who hate MeToo, SlutWalk, Free The Nipple, pro-choice and sex-positive feminism, all of which continually point out patriarchy as a factor in rape culture rather than queer people or horny women

aaand if you want to get REALLY complicated this all intersects with race and ethnicity, which often have gendered stereotypes of their own, thereby resulting in wildly different experiences between different genders within a race