Few years ago I delivered a training to a whole load of door stewards from a security company in Glasgow. During the training two men stood out. They stood out because they tried to disrupt the training in anyway they could. I affectionally called them Dickhead (DH) 1 & DH 2 1/7

When the group went one way they went the other. When the group agreed they disagreed. They just didn’t get involved. They just didn’t want to be there. They were prisoners and they made that clear. Other trainers will have met these types of individuals at their trainings. 2/7

A few months later I was delivering a similar training to over 100 door stewards and bar staff in Edinburgh. During the training I identified DH 1 sitting at the back of the room. He didn’t really get involved. At the end of the training he approached me 3/7

That night this man apologised for his behaviour at the previous training. He went in to discuss a situation outside a club in Glasgow. He talked about seeing an extremely drunk women leaving with a man who wasn’t as drunk. In that instAnt he says he recalled my training 4/7

He approached the women & asked her how her night was going (direct intervention). It was clear she was confused and it became clear she had no idea who the man was. He spotted the red flags. He took the women back into the club to look after her. He found one of her friends 5/7

Who was able to take her home. I listened and shook his hand and thanked him from stopping what was probably going to be a sexual assault or rape. Bystanders have the power. We just need to make them see that they can make a difference. 6/7

We need to give them tools and allow them to practice. It’s not about creating experts it’s more about helping people be the leaders they want to be. 7/7

There’s a moral rebel in us all and we can be trained to bring this side of us to the surface. The world needs more moral rebels

We can train moral rebels. Here’s my views https://grahamgoulden.com/2021/03/21/moral-courage/