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As a parent, I agree. What I hv done, a lot of parents refuse to do: recognize where I was wrong, apologize, mk amends. [thread] https://twitter.com/godesosax/status/1384997045216309253
I recognize I’m the adult. I recognize my children didn’t ask to be born. I recognize since I had them, it is my responsibility to provide for them. My children don’t owe me for food, shelter, clothing, hygiene products, other necessities.
I also recognized that maybe parenting classes were not such a bad idea n took them every opportunity I could. I read up on positive/conscious parenting. Do I always get it right? No. I’m not perfect. But, I’m never too proud to apologize n mk amends.
I see a lot of parents that resent their children. Blame hvn children for why ____ went wrong in their lives or why they don’t hv ____. Yet, they seek no help on how to be a parent AND be the adult they want to be.
I see a lot of hurt children that had children so they could do what was done to them. I see many that feel powerless n hv children to be the minions to their liege. I see many talmbout breaking generational curses as pertains to $$, but keeping the curses of...
...physical, emotional, mental, spiritual abuse. I see many that think love n affection can “spoil” an infant, toddler, child, teen. I see many that see the absent parent in the face of the child n mk the child pay for the sins of the absentee. I see many that will stop...
...providing for child(ren) to mk the custodial parent pay cos they grew up w/o dad n r “just fine.” I see many that want toddlers to behave like adults. So many of y’all can’t wait for the school house to open n mourn when it is closed.
But, to all the children (even if you “grown” now) waiting for an apology from your parents: Baby, I apologize for allowing my pain/trauma/abuse/____ get in the way of being a good parent. I apologize I didn’t learn to show you love in a way that affirms you n mks you feel seen.
Baby, I apologize for rejecting/neglecting/____ you. I apologize for not being the parent you needed. I apologize for not speaking up, defending you from _____. I apologize for being distant/absent/____. I apologize for all the birthdays, holidays that I missed.
Baby, I apologize for [any other situation I didn’t mention]. And, I apologize for all the things locked away inside your heart that you have never uttered a word about. Sending you light, love and peace as you mk your way in the world.
Remember, you’re special just for being you. [end thread]
