Mother's Day is in a couple of weeks and though I have been kind of silently ignoring all the Mother's Day ads that have populated my inbox and TL and notifications, I have been ruminating on some things about the grief process that I wanted to share.
A about grief and loss:

Grief is an incredibly personal journey, and sometimes people, though well intentioned, may not know the questions or comments that can set you off and take you back into a place you may have thought you moved on from 2/n

So I am here to tell you that you don't owe anyone anything. You don't need to share details about your loved ones' passing that you don't want to, you don't need to put yourself in a place to satisfy someone's curiosity, and you don't need to apologize for it 3/n

If someone does choose to open up to you about what happened, or how it made them feel, it is not then an invitation to go and talk about it with other people. My general maxim for life is never share stories that aren't yours without permission. 4/n

But being vulnerable with someone is a gift, and you should never feel bad for not wanting to go there, or not wanting to go there right now. And if someone is vulnerable with you, imo the right thing to do is to attend to their mental state, because you may have opened a box 5/n

that you didn't know was closed. If you are the type of person that over explains themselves , or feels rude for setting boundaries, I'm telling you it is OKAY to say you don't want to go there, or that it hurts, or that you don't want to talk about it. 6/n

Sending love and light to all living and moving through grief and loss, and I'm happy I could get this off my chest so I can finally go back and study.
#grief #loss #mothersday #dinnerparty