Sorry for jumping on the "Manu Joseph is crap" bandwagon but his latest piece shook me so much that I cannot be quiet, so I will scream into the void.

I lost my father to liver cancer in 2018 that had metastasized beyond repair and we had no idea that it was cancer.

He was unconscious and in the ICU before PET scans revealed he had cancer.
So when Manu Joseph writes, "An obsession with saving lives has created a culture of delaying death just because science lets us."
I take it very very personally.

At that moment when my father was getting a convulsion every few minutes, all I could think of was how I could give anything and do anything to ensure that he wakes up.
We are all helpless when medical science fails us.
But Joseph has mocked grief senselessly...

In the middle of a global pandemic that looms over grief stricken people like a dementor.
I want to hug everyone who has lost someone to this horrible disease.

I cannot say that it gets better.
Their memory suffocates you. Everyday things they use seem to mock you...

Just by sitting in their designated place, like their toothbrush in the bathroom, their clothes in their cupboard while there is no sign of them.

We as a society need to learn so much about grief and how it actually changes a person mentally and physically.

@meghanor writes this about grief, "Consumed by the question of what it means to be mortal, I looked around and thought, We are all going to die. When a friend talked about a minor problem at work, I wanted to shake her: ...

"You’re healthy, your loved ones are healthy, this problem is small. I stared at the clock, willing the minutes to pass. I hated being alone. I hated time."

This resonated with me when my grief was raw and some nights when I don't want to believe he is gone, it still does.

TLDR: Don't read Manu Joseph's piece unless want to get triggered. Especially those who are new to the Grief Club.
I want to hug you all.

And @livemint shouldn't publish this tone deaf crap anymore.
But oh well......

The collective and personal grief of this moment will take years to get better.

There's this book called The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk. He writes,

"We have learned that trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; ...

it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body. This imprint has ongoing consequences for how the human organism manages to survive in the present. Trauma results in a fundamental reorganization of the way mind and brain manage perceptions.

It changes not only how we think and what we think about, but also our very capacity to think."