My dad is the only PhD and I’m the only medical doctor in the entire Singh family.
The thought of changing my last name after marriage feels like I’m betraying my heritage.
Surely other women also grapple with this?

Love the conversations on this thread.

Particularly interested in how many of us (myself included), also consider our fathers when thinking about changing our last names.

My partner’s mom gave both of her sons her maiden name as their middle names, which I also absolutely love.

Part of the reason some women feel conflicted isn’t so much bc they feel pressured to change it (let’s be honest, we wouldn’t marry those men).
It’s an inner conflict between *wanting* to (not *having* to) take on your spouses name but also wanting to keep your own.

Happy to see so many women on this thread who kept theirs, hyphenated, made it their middle names, gave their maiden name to the kids, and even some with partners that took their last names. Love to see it!

Love seeing all the men who are 100% supportive of their partners’ choices.
Love seeing all the women commenting about their supportive partners who had no issues with this.

I suppose most of us would never considering marrying men who would oppose this to begin with.