Conflating consensual BDSM/kink with abuse certainly helps abusive people who use BDSM/kink as a cover. Because it’s not like the desires of subs to do sub stuff will disappear when you say “BDSM is abusive”. What it does, however, is strengthen the notion that “some abuse is

normal and fine in BDSM dynamics”, which makes people doubt if they should communicate boundaries or if it’s “how it’s supposed to be”, which opens the door to actual abuse.

It’ll create shame surrounding BDSM too, which further disincentivizes people from talking about it when abuse happens under the guise of BDSM. It’s exactly similar to the ways a lot of people in queer relationships can’t access resources wrt abuse in fear of outing themselves.

So yeah, pearl-clutching reactionary assholes are absolutely making things worse by insinuating that what turns them off personally is abusive and pathological

People are safer in an encyclopedia free of shame. BDSMers are safer when they are in a community of other BDSMers who talk about BDSM and boundaries inside AND outside of the context of engaging in play. Education is what helps people, not shame.

Environment*** not encyclopedia wtf

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