I remember watching #BillieEilish cut a birthday cake. She did it "wrong." She cut all the way on the side of a circular birthday cake and her hand was positioned awkwardly. It was *cute* and *quirky* that an 18 year old didn& #39;t know how to cut a cake.

Billie is one of my favorite artists, this is nothing against her, but I can& #39;t help but think of the reaction if she was visibly disabled, had any kind of "pity" label, and did the same thing, the same way. I imagine the response would be different.

And alot of people seen as *cute* and *quirky* don& #39;t see themselves that way. They go home after laughing along and think "you& #39;re so stupid how could you not know how to do X" and some of those people have an undiagnosed neurological difference.

All my life before diagnosis I got "They& #39;re a little slow but we love them." But I didn& #39;t find that a compliment. Ever. Nor did I think it was funny. I questioned my intelligence, and as a result, my worth.

P.s I know Billie is also neurodivergent.