I remember watching #BillieEilish cut a birthday cake. She did it "wrong." She cut all the way on the side of a circular birthday cake and her hand was positioned awkwardly. It was *cute* and *quirky* that an 18 year old didn't know how to cut a cake.

Billie is one of my favorite artists, this is nothing against her, but I can't help but think of the reaction if she was visibly disabled, had any kind of "pity" label, and did the same thing, the same way. I imagine the response would be different.

And alot of people seen as *cute* and *quirky* don't see themselves that way. They go home after laughing along and think "you're so stupid how could you not know how to do X" and some of those people have an undiagnosed neurological difference.

All my life before diagnosis I got "They're a little slow but we love them." But I didn't find that a compliment. Ever. Nor did I think it was funny. I questioned my intelligence, and as a result, my worth.

P.s I know Billie is also neurodivergent.