Trans people have no institutional power but lots of small spaces where we support each other emotionally.

Our cis partners/parents have institutional power but few small spaces for emotional support that don't get hijacked by jerks.

This is a core problem in trans discourse.

When I first came out, I found tons of subreddits, Discords, Slacks, etc., where trans women, trans femmes, and trans people in general were bearing each other up.

My wife found a few communities DOMINATED by people who were furious at their partners for transitioning.

This disparity is why the conversation around trans people revolves around the viewpoints of the cis people who know us.

Most people are cis. They find it easier to imagine the hurt they think they'd feel if a partner/child came out as trans and greenlight stories about that.

What would a supportive space for cis partners/parents that allows for thorny emotions without letting grief and anger overwhelm it look like? I don't know, and it's not my question to answer. But we need something like that.

Yes, this absolutely overlaps with how we talk about other queer identities, neurodivergence, mental health issues, disability... a whole host of topics that the media (broadly speaking) is terrible at discussing. https://twitter.com/lawantgarde/status/1384965342280224769