It's weird that aesthetic is spoken about like it's a personality trait for *every*one. Some days I want to be punk some days I look like a cargo shorts dad and some days I want to wear the strawberry dress and I don't think this is like... fringe
This might seem like a silly thing to post about, but it's given me a few personality/identity crises over the years? And I don't know why because it's just clothes
It also gets all wrapped up in how butch or fem I am as a bi woman and the fact that I lean toward identifying with some posts about looking masc while knowing that I'm also completely at home in dresses. And anyway this is the smallest problem in the world but this post is [1/2]
my final step in shedding that weirdness I impose on myself. Which boils down to "oh I'm just not the people who are butch or fem," something that was never my business. (but it's very cool & at home to step back and cheer for you all from the sidelines) [2/2]
Anyway if anyone gets weird at butches/femmes in the notes of this post it's a block on sight, this post is about self-imposed nonsense by a person who has OCD? Not all problems I have are caused by other people existing, please leave
"notes"
Ah I see the problem I was afraid of and it's that two minutes ago in the OG post I said "is spoken about." Anyway that's how I talk in my head about things my brain considers societal, but that are actually my own thing to work out. Knew I'd done something off-key here
Is it probably important that the internet learn to react to someone's presence like it's chill for them to change day to day without making it an Entire To-Do: probably, but I think this is one of those places where I'm afraid of societal reactions based on like. three outliers
I get weird looks and probably lowered rates of people-wanting-to-hire-me based on the fact that I sometimes show up looking masc and sometimes don't but I think most people in the world are like oh that's how [real name] is. it's refreshing to 80% of them and weird to like. two
I think this thread is basically a diary entry but I also don't think I've done anything offensive and DO think it has a chance of being helpful so I'm leaving it up? I enjoy the concept of it existing permanently? Don't make me regret this
Originally this thread also had a joke in it about how much I appreciate autpunk and why but I think that's a post for another time