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"But unlike other forms of abuse, in narcissistic parenting, appearances are deceptive and the harm will always be denied. From the outside, the family will appear normal and nurturing, but will be missing the most basic element of parenting: https://www-haaretz-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.haaretz.com/amp/life/.premium.MAGAZINE-after-daughter-s-book-on-amos-oz-how-narcissistic-parenting-impacts-children-1.9729756?amp_js_v=a6&_gsa=1&usqp=mq331AQFKAGwASA%3D#aoh=16190054076536&csi=0&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&_tf=From%20%251%24s&share=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.haaretz.com%2Flife%2F.premium.HIGHLIGHT.MAGAZINE-after-daughter-s-book-on-amos-oz-how-narcissistic-parenting-impacts-children-1.9729756
that primal, unspoken pact between parent and child – that the parent wants what is good for the child and is on the child’s side."
I'm making this thread for myself, for future reference and anxiety reduction. This would be helpful for anyone traumatized by narcissistic abuse.
I'm making this thread for myself, for future reference and anxiety reduction. This would be helpful for anyone traumatized by narcissistic abuse.
Being "spoiled" is cover:
"...Most of the women in the group describe very difficult relationships with mothers who never denied them any material comforts. They grew up in seemingly embracing households. Many weren’t physically beaten when they were kids, they weren’t starved,
"...Most of the women in the group describe very difficult relationships with mothers who never denied them any material comforts. They grew up in seemingly embracing households. Many weren’t physically beaten when they were kids, they weren’t starved,
but they suffered from severe gaslighting, from incitement against them and from psychological abuse that has a strong tendency to continue into adulthood."
"The perception of the child as a subject does not exist for the narcissistic parent. He will supervise and care for the child, but as you would care for an inanimate object."
“Families with narcissistic parents are usually families that speak with one voice,” Yokev explains. Usually one person is generating the dynamics, experts say. The second parent and others tend to cooperate with that person through silencing, blurring and denial.
The professional jargon terms this “flying monkeys,” a term that refers to family members and friends who unconsciously cooperate with the victimized narrative of the narcissist while participating in a campaign of denigration against the victim of abuse."
“The narcissist cannot let go of a child, since he regards any distancing or criticism as abandonment or as an attack, “explains Cohen. “If there is some distancing, he will employ an entire armada, including neighbors, family members and friends,
in order to bring back the child who’s moved away. He turns the child into an evil person, or a rebel.”
"The specious presentation of wonderful parents was so consistent over the years, with the child tagged as a troublemaker, a bad and ungrateful child, that there’s no chance he’ll be believed."
I am still so heavily triggered by not being believed. It hurts so much.
I am still so heavily triggered by not being believed. It hurts so much.
