Read on Twitter
There are things you don't realize until you are within the "transgender community". There are other things you don't realize until you leave the community. /1
A common statement is that many TW put on a "mask of hypermasculinity" before transition. That this is why you find so many TW that were married with children, in the military or other male dominated careers, show "no signs of being feminine". /2
But the truth is for most like that. there is no mask. Immersing yourself so completely in "masculine culture" like that would be unbearable if it was truly contrary to your nature. /3
I'm not saying that there are strict "man things" and "woman things". But statistically there are clearly things that we can infer. I think these TW have a harder time relating to women. They have a harder time empathizing with women. /4
They may claim to have women as friends, but I wonder about the nature of those friendships. Are the deep, do they have roots? Are these TW the first friends these women turn to? Would you be their 2 AM emergency call? /5
How many women did they have as friends before transition? More importantly, how many women considered them friends? /6
Psuedobisexuality is used to talk about TW that are only attracted to men sexually as a way to enhance their feminine self-image. I think there's a similar thing happening with some TW and their relationships, social and sexual, with women. /7
I think for some, the "I have women friends" becomes a prop. I also think that's why so many push the idea of being lesbians and that they should date lesbians. What's more affirming than the idea that a woman that only likes women wants you? /8
