Few ways getting feedback goes wrong (continuation of playing tennis/ training in life):

1/ “try unfiltered truth” where consequences too high when saying wrong stuff - could be boss, reporters, analysts/ investors, congress, etc.

2/ feedback from people who aren’t in the arena situationally - parenting advice from people who don’t have kids, often work feedback from spouses and kid feedback from co-workers. Someone in the arena knowing the nuanced details matters to prevent echo chambers of BS

3/ Feedback from people who don’t hit back with their visceral truth, the worst of them further “hard mode” fueling our ability to play victim to life (unfair, only me, constraints provide no options and choices except why bother, it’s impossible and they “yes, me too. I agree.”)

4/ People who deny your truth (“don’t think that, don’t say that, you’re good not bad Etc”). But I feel this way. They make us have to hide and take our truth of how we feel underground.

5/ people who kiss off our feelings and aren’t really engaged (“tell me more I want to be of help”...or “aww that makes me so sad you think that of yourself” etc) but don’t actually mean it. Fake care. Fake engagement but you see in their follow ups, like you never even talked

6/ people who drown you in affirmations. Yet the research says the human BS detector kicks in and what you now tried to “bring to light” goes full awol terrorist inside your own head.

What else is missing on this list of how feedback seeking fails?