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it& #39;s really drilled into boys and young men that being vulnerable in any way is bad. not in overt ways. nobody ever says "if you show emotion you& #39;re not a man"
okay some people do say that - and they& #39;re the worst
but it& #39;s in the media we watched, the world around us
okay some people do say that - and they& #39;re the worst
but it& #39;s in the media we watched, the world around us
the cartoons we saw as kid made a point, deliberately or otherwise, to rarely ever show male characters in ways that were considered non-masculine
they rarely cried, or spoke softly, or talked about what made them upset or angry
that shit gets coded into young boys brains
they rarely cried, or spoke softly, or talked about what made them upset or angry
that shit gets coded into young boys brains
what movies had male protagonists that were vulnerable? what movies and shows made a point to show it was okay not to be anything but a rock-solid MAN all the time?
when it WAS depicted - it was depicted as comedic, or lame. looked down upon in the world of the media we saw
when it WAS depicted - it was depicted as comedic, or lame. looked down upon in the world of the media we saw
men grow up believing that all men are islands. meant to stand independently of others, rocks for the world that don& #39;t need support themselves
rocks that were indestructible - because rocks that weren& #39;t were worthless. a joke. lame.
rocks that were indestructible - because rocks that weren& #39;t were worthless. a joke. lame.
there& #39;s a million and ten or so possible roots that toxic masculinity can use to take root in somebody. most of them are completely subtle
it& #39;s not that all men are innately terrible. it& #39;s that the culture has created this idyllic version of a man. and it isn& #39;t a good one.
it& #39;s not that all men are innately terrible. it& #39;s that the culture has created this idyllic version of a man. and it isn& #39;t a good one.
and how many men are raised and see different aspects of this "perfect man" and try to emulate it? most of them, probably.
the side effects of this are bad. they& #39;ll look down on others. they& #39;ll treat women poorly. they& #39;ll hate themselves if they don& #39;t match up.
the side effects of this are bad. they& #39;ll look down on others. they& #39;ll treat women poorly. they& #39;ll hate themselves if they don& #39;t match up.
