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There are a lot of ways men’s mental health isn’t being adequately addressed by society but what we’re not going to do is use that as an excuse to perpetuate harmful sexist narratives about the family court system that abuses women every day /1 https://twitter.com/roderickgraham/status/1383059812234244096
A common MRA talking point is that the family court system favors women over men. This isn't a benign claim. Not only is it incorrect but it feeds into narratives that justify abuse against women and children given custody to abusers /2
While it is more likely that women get custody of children after a divorce 91% of custody agreements are decided without any court interference and its often based on outdated gender stereotypes or that men dont want full custody /3 https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115
"Evidence shows that the disproportionately male judiciary is more likely to rule against abused women and children" /4 https://www.theguardian.com/society/commentisfree/2020/mar/05/family-courts-biased-men-dangerous-fallacy-abuse
If you watched Allen v Farrow you might already know that "Parental Alienation Syndrome" was made up by a misogynistic psychologist & often results in abusers getting custody of children /5 https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/abusers-claim-parental-alienation-to-gain-custody-of-kids
Domestic violence can be very difficult to include in family court proceedings. Some family court systems dont even have a cause of action for marital rape /6 https://www.bwjp.org/our-work/topics/child-custody-and-family-court.html
Even worse reporting domestic violence often leads to women losing custody of their children https://www.themarshallproject.org/2020/07/08/she-said-her-husband-hit-her-she-lost-custody-of-their-kids
So while I think men deserve resources and help and while I think there might be some neglect we absolutely CANNOT let those issues perpetuate narratives that contribute to misogynistic abuse
As to some other points in the quoted tweet I did some research and found out that while men are more likely to commit suicide women are more likely to attempt suicide and have suicidal thoughts https://www.verywellmind.com/gender-differences-in-suicide-methods-1067508
It’s also pretty complicated to discuss healthcare outcomes when one considers the extreme gender data gap in medicine, abysmal maternal mortality rates, & general medical sexism https://www.standard.co.uk/futurelondon/health/gender-data-gap-caroline-criado-perez-on-how-healthcare-is-systematically-discriminating-against-women-a4246221.html
Misdiagnosis is significantly more common with women https://www.medmalfirm.com/news-and-updates/misdiagnosis-epidemic-among-women/
Fatphobia in healthcare also affects women more https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/a34759595/weight-bias-healthcare/
Additionally while it’s true that women earn 56% of college degrees, they still trail with the overall pay gap. One reason men go to college less is because there are more job options for them that don’t require a degree. The stats don’t necessarily mean “suffering”
Important thread to add to this discussion. When men fight for custody they get custody. The family court system IS NOT biased against men. It often instead is weaponized against women https://twitter.com/karnythia/status/1388472651400818695
