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We need to talk about ADHD and how it affects the ability to retain a healthy romantic partnership.
Relationships in general can be difficult for those with ADHD, but the realm of love is a different ball game!
ADHD people are fascinated by anything that is new, stimulating, or of a personal interest.
And a new relationship checks all those boxes.
ADHD people are fascinated by anything that is new, stimulating, or of a personal interest.
And a new relationship checks all those boxes.
It’s easy for us to hyper focus on a new partner. To learn all about them, to spend time with them, to show affection to them. Accidentally love bombing because we are so excited for the relationship.
Then something weird happens, we simply lose interest.
Then something weird happens, we simply lose interest.
The honeymoon rise & fall phase is more aggressive with ADHD. To become someone’s focus of affection & suddenly experiencing their inattentiveness is hurtful for our partners & also confusing for us with ADHD.
It’s easy to impulsively enter relationships, and leave just as quick
It’s easy to impulsively enter relationships, and leave just as quick
ADHD people may have a string of short romantic encounters due to this, affecting their self-esteem of loving and being loved.
Because toxic situations can be stimulating, people with ADHD are more than likely to be in unhealthy love due to the dopamine it brings.
Because toxic situations can be stimulating, people with ADHD are more than likely to be in unhealthy love due to the dopamine it brings.
If you are ADHD and dating, or you are dating someone with ADHD—it’s more important than ever to do your best to keep the relationship new and stimulating. Go to new places for your dates, do different activities, etc.
And be honest about your feelings and what isn’t working!
And be honest about your feelings and what isn’t working!
And on the flip side, those who are dating people with ADHD—it would tremendously help you to learn more about your partner with grace and patience.
Be mindful of the language you use when they forget something, lose something, get distracted etc. Understanding gifts longevity.
Be mindful of the language you use when they forget something, lose something, get distracted etc. Understanding gifts longevity.
ADHD people have higher divorce rates because of all the above.
Lack of understanding from partners with our symptoms, unintentionally inattentive after a period of hyper focus, hyper focusing on everything that isn’t you, etc.
Lack of understanding from partners with our symptoms, unintentionally inattentive after a period of hyper focus, hyper focusing on everything that isn’t you, etc.
I’m done with this thread, I hope it helps! You are not alone and your neurodiversity doesn’t make you any less worthy of love.
I’ll be making a free ADHD post on my patreon that will talk about this more in-depth with helpful resources later today. I’ll link it when done
I’ll be making a free ADHD post on my patreon that will talk about this more in-depth with helpful resources later today. I’ll link it when done
Check it out! Featuring resources from some of my favorite advocates like @HowtoADHD and @blkgirllostkeys
https://www.patreon.com/posts/50042681
https://www.patreon.com/posts/50042681
Boosting helpful links that I wrote on the blog here. This blog has so many tips for ADHD people and their partners and how to empathize with both perspectives and how we can be self-accountable. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-and-relationships.htm
René from @blkgirllostkeys has the perfect blogs. Check out this one on helpful tips to sustain connections with ADHD https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/how-to-maintain-connection-in-relationships-with-adhd/
A stimulating video from How to ADHD that breaks this issue down under 7 minutes!
This article that spotlights people’s experiences and leaves advice for others that are going through the same thing! https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-relationships-partners-reader-advice-healthy-marriage-help/
Logging off for the night with another blog from René on why dating ADHD people can be great! Happy loving https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/adhd-relationships/
https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/adhd-relationships/
