How utterly perplexing that some people pathologise the 'cry for help'; that instead of hearing that cry and responding with care, they see this as reason to literally withdraw care. What went wrong along the way to desensitise us to the wholly legitimate cry for attachment.

We have somehow come to find it repugnant that people would go to drastic lengths to receive attention. Instead of feeling devastated about their disconnection and need to escalate, or wondering WHY, or asking 'how can I meet your pain?' we roll our eyes, see it as inconvenient.

How much kinder it would be to ask 'why does your heart hurt?' or 'Tell me what you need to have heard...' and to give all the attention we have inside of us. But we don't have time for that. Capitalism requires us all to be sorted, fixable...to feel & behave conveniently.