how to come into terms with your body

all of us, in one way or another, has been insecure with our bodies. maybe you still are. as for me, the feeling comes and goes. some days, i feel confident about my human vessel... and some days, i drown in envy and insecurity because my body is not like one of those models'.

if you are like me, this thread can help you make peace with your body. before everything else, please know that the journey toward being secure with who you are no matter your geometry is a long, tough road. nonetheless, every step - even if it is small and uncertain - counts.

1. instead of body positivity, try to practice body neutrality. this is a philosophy stating that our bodies are the least interesting thing about us. i like this because this is much more achievable for most people. after all, no matter our outside appearance, it is always

the inside that matters most. your body is a present from the universe. also, we do not really have the power to make our bodies resemble the perfect mannequin body because our shape and structure are mostly defined by our genes. some people are simply born conventionally sexy.

2. eat for your health. i have tried extreme diets before and it did not work for me in the long run. it only put my mental and physical health at risk. i recommend you try mindful eating instead of dieting.

what is mindful eating? mindful eating is the act of being present while eating your food. practice gratitude before you eat. for example, if you are eating fish fillet, think of the fishermen who caught the fish. think of their efforts. think of the person who cooked your meal,

may it be you or the chef in the restaurant you are eating at. thinking about the process of how your food arrived in front of you will allow you to savor and appreciate it more. this can also help you in avoiding binge eating.

3. be kind to yourself. talk to your body like it is your most prized possession because honestly, it is. it allows you to see, to hear, to feel, and many more. if you are a woman, try to see your body through a feminine gaze and not the male gaze.

who cares if you are thin or thick or curvy? as long as you are honoring your body all the time, other people's opinions do not matter. one helpful tip is to try talking to yourself like how you want your lover to talk to you. do you want your lover to be mean to you?

do you want your lover to be impatient with you? no, right? so try to talk to yourself like you are your own lover. because at the end of the day, you are.

i hope this helped. if you want to buy me coffee, you can do so through http://ko-fi.com/sunlithetarot  or you can click the link in my bio. thank you!