Comparison Traps

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DESTROY THESE COMPARISON TRAPS;
Comparison seems to be the default of every part of our life. Think about it. How do you know when you have the best price on a car? You compare. When are you pleased with your waist size?

You compare (preferably to larger). How do you know where you stand in a relationship ? You compare. It seems life-sucking comparison traps are everywhere, so before we can break free, we’ll need to identify some of them.

THE PERFORMANCE TRAP, aka The Hamster wheel: This trap compares and measures our efforts and success to others. We get caught up in striving for being better than others instead of striving for being the best you.

one time in high school, i asked my teacher where my grades stood compared to the rest of the class and she knew the answer. Now you feel the power of the comparison trap because you want to know my ranking right? EXACTLY!

THE PRIDE TRAP, aka The Unending Sky-scraper: This trap compares who we are with who we perceive others to be. We’re always striving for recognition and acceptance from others instead of resting in our recognition and acceptance from God.

THE INSECURITY TRAP, aka The Two-way Mirror: This trap compares our weaknesses to others’ strengths. I fall into this trap when I long for the strengths of others instead of thanking God for my own. Staring in this two-way mirror leaves us feeling like we’ll never be enough.

THE ENVY TRAP, aka The Green-Eyed Monster: This trap compares what we don’t have to what others do have. Money, career, kids, home, relationships, e.t.c I get stuck in this trap when I try to find out how to get what I don’t have instead of finding out how to give what I do have.

These comparison traps put others’ efforts, strengths, and stuff as the goal and purpose of our lives. Your energy, time, and purpose is wasted when you try to be like others, do like others, and have what others have.

OVERCOMING YOUR COMPARISON TRAPS

1. KEEP YOURSELF AND YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA IN CHECK:
Social media is one of the most popular uses of the internet.
But social media is a culprit of comparison and envy because everyone shares the best parts of their lives.

Few, if any, will share their hardships, struggles, disappointments, or painful aspects of their routine. So, you can easily get sucked into other peoples’ lavish lives and start feeling resentful because your life isn’t as eventful and luxurious as theirs.

2. EVALUATE CURRENT INDIVIDUALITY AGAINST YOUR PAST SELF:
When you constantly compare yourself to others, you will always feel like a failure. So, if you have to compare, the only person you should be comparing yourself to is yourself.

That’s right, if you want to know if you are doing great today, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Think about where you are now and where you were a year, a month, or a week ago.

3. BE EMPATHETIC TOWARDS OTHERS:
The person you envy also has struggles, setbacks, and insecurities. You just don’t see them. See, you know yourself inside out (strengths, weaknesses, everything), but when it comes to other people, you only see things on the surface.

4. SET REWARDS FOR YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS:
Comparing your life to others prevents you from feeling the happiness and pride of success. The comparison trap makes you feel like your accomplishments are less worthy than someone else’s.

Encourage and motivate yourself by rewarding your achievements, no matter how small. Goals are achieved one step at a time, And rewarding your them can help keep you on the right course. In the end, what other people accomplish will not matter when your mind is fixed on a prize.

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