reminds me of ibn qayyims: “compatibility between souls is one of the strongest causes of love. this compatibility is of two types: original compatibility which is ingrained in the essence & 2nd that which comes later because of living together or having something in common” https://twitter.com/riyadandalusi/status/1356293215087976449

“If your aims match his aims, there will be harmony between your soul and his, but if the aims are different, then harmony will no longer exist.
As for original compatibility, it is a kind of similarity in attitude and similarity of souls.”

“Each soul longs for other souls that are similar to it, because what is similar to something is naturally attracted to it, so the two souls may be similar in original creation, thus there will be a natural attraction to one another.”

“This is what made some people say that love is not only caused by physical beauty & the lack of physical beauty does not mean that there can be no love; rather it is similarity between souls and similarity in their characteristics which are created in them that matter.” so true

“The reality of love is that it is like a mirror in which the lover sees his characteristics and kindness in the image of the one he loves, so in reality he loves nothing but himself and his characteristics and the one who has similar characteristics.”

he goes on to explain more that noble people are drawn to patience, kindness, generosity and bravery because that’s the essence of their souls so they look for familiar ones & the ones that don’t look for this in someone are not similar to these traits

if a relationship is built on similarity and harmony then it will last but if the core of it is another reason other than love - then it will go when the reason goes

anyways don’t settle for anything other than a true soulmate.