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Harmful/ rude things to say to asexual people ; a thread
Now disclaimer that I do not speak for everyone and there are certain things I don't feel comfortable speaking on because I don't experience them but I'm goning to try and sort of share my take on some things.
1. Asexual people can't have relationships. This is 100% not true. Some asexual ppl may choose to not but some people do want romantic relationships. It's really not your business anyway so just.. don't ask.
2. so and so means that you aren't asexual. Asexuality is a spectrum, an extremely broad one at that, the word has many meanings for many people you are not allowed to tell someone how they identify is wrong. Stay out of it.
3. so and so means you are asexual. Again some people don't like sex/ romantic relationships and aren't asexual and that's ok. Mind your business. You can't tell anyone how to feel
4. Youre just a late bloomer. This one makes me the most mad. Don't tell people that they're going to "grow into it" don't imply that there's something wrong with us because we have different preferences. it's rude and ignorant.
5. you're to young to know. There is not an age limit to sexuality. yes one could argue that minors shouldn't be engaging in sexual activities (which I agree with) but you can still know how you feel about something without trying it. Don't invalidate people.
6. You're just afraid. Some people are, and that's okay but some people aren't. Some people just don't want to and that it ok and 100%valid. Let people feel how they want to feel about something.
7. You're never going to have a family? It's not your business if anyone has a family for one and two some asexual people have intercourse to have a kid, some never will have kids, there's adoption and ivf, it's 2021 the world has found other ways.
8. *Insert nsfw topic* this depends on the person but please ask before you talk about anything nsfw, I doubt that anyone would get mad at you for asking a simple question that benefits them in the end. Some don't mind talking about some absolutely hate it, some feel indifferent
End of thread.
I'm a little nervous to post this and I hope I explained okay, basically the key point here is mind your business. Um yeah so asexual ppl you are so valid and ilysm !
I'm a little nervous to post this and I hope I explained okay, basically the key point here is mind your business. Um yeah so asexual ppl you are so valid and ilysm !
