Relationships can be tough, most people do not have the tools to sustain them, and even with the tools they can still be tough, because you are two different people, with different backgrounds, individual traumas, & expectations & different cultures sometimes.

When those individual traumas surface combined by poor communication, and unsaid expectations, or difference in core issues surface it can seem like a war zone.

This is why love as a feeling is not enough, but love in action can get you through it. How so?

Get the help that you need, read books, go for relationship coaching, get equipped on communication skills, learn each others triggers and traumas. This takes work. This takes love in action, doing the work that will make the relationship work.

Most people get the fairytale idea of relationships from movies etc, and yes they are amazing, it's great to have someone to do life with, to co-create, to share life with. With the right tools you can make the disagreements easier and hold space and grow together.

Also think of it this way, even on your own you have ups you have downs, you have inner work, you have to connect with self,& you sometimes struggle with this, now two people together in different bodies of course you will have to Calibrate quite often. It only makes sense.

Relationships take a lot of intentionality on both ends. If you and your partner are struggling it is okay to ask for help go for therapy, counseling etc. And keep doing the individual healing work as well.

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