A short Thread of side effects people don’t tell you about when you become

“The Person who can communicate their emotions”

1. People will gaslight you into thinking you’re sensitive.

Truth of the matter that it’s not that you feel things more than the other person it’s that you are unwilling to hide the fact that you feel them. As nonchalant as we may pretend to be, We all feel.

2. They also gaslight you into thinking you’re combative.

People are not used to people effectively communicating, so when you constantly communicate your feelings people are on defense... this is especially when it’s in regards to how their actions contributed to your hurt.

2. Cont’d

People don’t want to feel responsibility for hurting another persons feelings because it destroys they think it destroys the narrative that they are a “good person” the truth is communicators take a more preventative approach to mitigate future hurt to both parties

3. It’s often your responsibility to be “the bigger person”

There’s no waiting on the other person to bring a difficult situation up. Because most times they won’t. So you take on the burden of being the fixer in your relationship. Which can be cumbersome.

4. When a space is not conducive to sharing, it may send you into a spiral of overthinking.

You don’t always have the Avenue to speak freely. This makes you uncomfortable because it’s not what you’re used to. But life. Then you’re forced to process internally ... AND ANXIETY

This level of emotional intelligence is so vital to the building of relationships, but it can be a difficult. The important thing to remember is that, it’s okay to feel. It’s okay to be hurt. Keep talking about your feelings and the right people won’t try to invalidate them.

I should say that these are based non my experiences and some things That IIIII have seen.